Passive, aggressive or assertive?
Who has few close relationships and is protective of personal information?
Aggressive.
Refers to personal space and physical touch. These types of boundaries may be violated if someone touches you without permission.
Physical boundaries.
T/F:
You should use confident body language when setting boundaries.
True.
Your friend is over and it is getting late. You want to go to bed but your friend is unaware of how late it is. What do you do?
Respectfully tell your friend how tired you are and asking them to leave.
What has to be broken for you to use it?
An egg.
Who fears being rejected if they do not do what others want them to do?
Passive.
Refers to a person's feelings. These boundaries are violated when someone criticizes, belittles, or invalidates another person's feelings.
Verbal/emotional boundaries.
T/F:
The appropriateness of boundaries depends heavily on setting.
True. What is appropriate to say when you are out with friends might not be appropriate when you are in class or at work.
A good friend asks you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, what do you do?
Use "I" statements to let your friend know how you feel and that you do not want to participate.
I’m tall when I’m young, and I’m short when I’m old.
A candle.
Who is accepting when others say "no" to them.
Assertive.
Refers to work/school. These boundaries are violated when someone is required to overexert themselves in one of these areas.
Professional/academic boundaries.
T/F:
Most people have a mix of different boundary types.
True. Someone could have healthy boundaries at work, porous boundaries in relationships and a mix of all three with their family.
You missed several days of school or work due to being in juvie. A peer asks you where you were and you do not want to tell them the details. What do you say?
Respectfully tell them that information is private and thank them for thinking of you.
What question can you never answer yes to?
Are you asleep yet?
Who refuses to tell anyone "no"?
Passive.
Refers to our personal belongings. These boundaries are violated when our belongings are used in a way that we did not give permission.
Material boundaries.
T/F:
It is helpful to plan ahead to set boundaries.
True. It is helpful to plan ahead what we are going to say and how willing we are to negotiate.
Someone in group/class is very upset about something that just happened. They are yelling and it is making you feel very uncomfortable.
Respectfully tell that person that their actions are making you feel uncomfortable, or ask to take space yourself.
David's father has three sons: snap, crackle, and _____.
David.
Who does not compromise their values for other people?
Assertive.
Refers to how a person uses their time. These boundaries are violated when another person demands too much of another's time.
Time boundaries.
T/F:
Some cultures have very different expectations when it comes to boundaries.
True. In some cultures it's considered inappropriate to express emotions publicly. In other cultures, emotional expression is encouraged.
How would you set a boundary with a friend who is making jokes about you in a way that makes you uncomfortable?
Tell them "It's not okay with me that you do that. I'd like you to please stop."
You see a boat filled with people, yet there isn’t a single person on board. How is that possible?
They are all married.