Boundary styles
What are porous boundaries and give an example?
- overly trusting
- overshares personal information
-difficulty saying "no"
-avoids conflict by giving into others
- passive communication
Because it shows you respect yourself and others enough to be honest
What are physical boundaries? give definition and example
-How you manage your personal space and physical touch
how would you let a friend know you do not like hugs without someone asking you first?
- "Please stop"
- "I don't like that"
- "Please ask me first"
What are healthy boundaries and give an example?
- Takes time to build trust with others
- Shares personal information appropriately
- able to say 'no' when needed
- communicates assertively
Why do we use assertive communication when implementing boundaries?
Because when speaking with confidence it states your needs respectfully and without ambiguity.
What are emotional boundaries and give an example?
- how you share and protect your feelings
A good friend asks you out, however, you are not interested in being more than friends, how would you let them know respectfully and clearly?
- "no, I only want to be friends with you"
What are ridged boundaries and give an example?
- Very untrusting
- Very guarded with personal information
- says 'no' to others most of the time
- communicates aggressively
Can healthy boundaries be flexible?
yes, boundaries need to flex based on your level of energy, comfort, and trust.
- how you express and explore your thoughts and ideas
Is it a boundary violation if the violation is not towards you? give an example of why or why not?
yes
a friend calls you late at night when you are in bed to tell you about their problems with their significant other, you are tired and want to go to sleep but too scared to communicate assertively to get off the phone. What style of boundary is this considered?
Porous
Should your boundaries reflect your values?
yes, healthy boundaries reflect and protect the things that matter the most to you.
what are material boundaries and give an example?
- how you use your money and possessions
a friend calls you late at night when you are in bed to tell you about their problems with their significant other, you are tired and want to go to sleep, what do you say to comminate a healthy boundary?
John is relucent to ask for help and avoids close friendships, what boundary style is this?
Rigid
Why is it important to acknowledge your emotions?
because, if you feel discomfort or resentment these strong emotions are a sign that your boundaries haven't been respected.
what are time boundaries and give an example?
- how you spend and structure your time
your significant other wants you to send sexy pictures, when you tell that person no, they belittle you and accuse you of being boring, what do you say to assert your boundary?
- "I'm not comfortable with this, if you continue to not respect my boundaries, I will end this relationship."