Definition
limits or guidelines that define acceptable behavior within relationships and protect individuals' well-being. They help define what is and is not okay, ensuring respect and safety, and promoting healthy relationships
What are Boundaries
how much ____ you spend with someone or doing something
what is Time?
Clear Communication, Compassion, Consistant, Connection
What are the 4 C's of Boundaires?
Low self-esteem. Trouble identifying your own emotions. Trouble making decisions. Desire to care for others. Desire to feel important to someone. An excessive sense of responsibility for the way others act. A tendency to fall in love with people you can "rescue"; Difficulty dealing with change. Are all signs of what?
What is Co-Dependence?
Focusing on only negative aspects of a situation, ignoring the positive.
Mental Filtering (negative nate)
This involves explicitly stating what is and isn't acceptable behavior in a relationship. It's about clearly defining personal limits and expectations, ensuring everyone understands the boundaries. For example, "I need some alone time after work to recharge," or "I'm not comfortable with you touching me in that way".
What is Clear Communication?
Freedom to have your own thoughts values and opinions.
What is Mental?
Boundaries help with...
Self-care, Healthy Relationships, and Mental Health
Statements used to reinforce your boundaries and express your feelings in a respectful way.
What are I statements
Drawing broad conclusions based on a single incident.
Over generalization (over and over oliver)
it's crucial to follow through with consequences when they are violated.______ demonstrates that boundaries are not just words, but a real limit to be respected. For example, if a child is not allowed to have sweets before dinner, that boundary should be consistently enforced, even if they beg for an exception
What is Consistency i.e. consistent enforcement
How _______ available you are for others
What is Emotionally?
limits that are poorly defined, ignored, or used to control others, hindering personal well-being and relationships
What are Unhealthy Boundaries?
Knowing your limits and what do you need to feel comfortable and respected in relationships, work, or other aspects of your life.
What is Evaluating your needs?
Viewing situations in black and white, with no middle ground.
All or nothing thinking (all or nothing allen)
Building a strong ______ with the person in question can make it easier for them to understand and accept your boundaries. This involves empathy, understanding, and building trust. For example, explaining the reasons behind a boundary, such as "I need to be in the house by 10 pm to be able to be healthy and productive at work".
What is Connection?
Giving and lending to others
What is Material?
Types of boundaries Cont: Topics you do and do not feel comfortable talking about
What is Conversational?
biased or irrational thought patterns that distort how individuals perceive reality, influencing their feelings and behaviors (unhelpful thoughts)
What are cognitive distortions
Expecting the worst possible outcome
Catastrophization (Dramma queen Jean)
When boundaries are challenged, it's important to respond with __________ and understanding. This means acknowledging the other person's feelings and needs, while still upholding your own boundaries. For example, if a child is upset about a boundary, listen to their feelings and try to find a compromise if possible.
What is Compassion?
Sefl-regulation; Energy you use on others vs yourself
What is Internal?
Types of Boundaries Cont: Privacy, personal space, your body
What is Personal?
What type of boundary is this statement "i respect your opinion although I disagree"
Assuming emotions are factual, leading to negative thoughts and behaviors.
Emotional reasoning (Emo Emily)