Boundary Basics
True or False — Boundaries push people away.
False — healthy boundaries create safer, more authentic connections.
True or False: Vulnerability is weakness.
False — it’s actually the birthplace of courage and connection.
Internal boundaries help us manage what — our time, energy, or emotions?
All of the above.
True or False — External boundaries only apply to strangers.
False — they’re important in close relationships too.
True or False — Every part of us, even the ones that act out, has a positive intention.
True.
What emotion often signals that one of your boundaries has been crossed?
Anger, resentment, or discomfort.
What simple word does Tawwab call a “complete sentence”?
What is “No”?
What mindfulness skill can help us notice when we’re close to overextending ourselves?
Self-awareness or body awareness (mindfulness).
Instead of over-explaining, what does Tawwab recommend when setting a boundary?
What is being direct and concise?
Values-based boundaries come from which therapy model focused on living in alignment with personal values?
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
Nedra Tawwab describes three main types of boundaries. Name one.
Physical, emotional, and time (or material) boundaries
How does shame differ from guilt?
What is guilt says “I did something bad”; shame says “I am bad.”
This inner boundary helps you pause between feeling and reacting so you can act with integrity.
What is a Containing Boundary?
These boundaries are most visible because they deal directly with what happens between people.
What are relational or outward boundaries?
What are "automatic thoughts"?
Immediate often negative thoughts that pop up in our minds.
Juliane Taylor Shore (Setting Boundaries That Stick) describes four main types of boundaries. Name one.
External, Psychological, Containing, and Physical boundaries
In romantic relationships, healthy boundaries help prevent what pattern?
What is codependency?
This boundary keeps your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs distinct from someone else’s.
What is a Psychological Boundary?
What is an example of setting a Physical Boundary?
Answers vary - Saying, “I’d prefer a handshake instead of a hug,” is an example of this
Reframe this thought: “I can’t say no or people will stop liking me.”
Answers vary
When someone repeatedly crosses your boundary, what’s the next step?
Enforce consequences (follow through on what you said would happen)
What mindset shift does Tawwab say is necessary for lasting peace?
Believing you are worthy of having needs and limits.
What is an example of setting an internal boundary around your thoughts?
Answers vary.
What’s one respectful way to express an external boundary in a relationship?
Answers vary - using "I" statements
In IFS, what are the three main types of parts?
Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles