Boundaries 101
What are boundaries?
A boundary is a limit you set on what you will accept of another person's words or actions.
Saying "no" or accepting when other's say "no"
HEALTHY!!!
What does it mean to be assertive?
Being able to stick up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful.
Speaking up for ourselves and others
ASSERTIVE!
What position does Ms. B play in Basketball?
Point Guard
True or False?
Your boundaries stay the same forever
False!
Boundaries can change depending on the person or the situation.
Setting goals and sticking with responsibilities.
HEALTHY!!!!!!
Being assertive builds.....
Self-Esteem!
Getting into someone's face when you feel disrespected?
AGGRESSIVE :(
How many siblings does Ms. Meg have?
Two brothers
Who should you have boundaries with?
EVERYONE
(friends, family, boyfriends/girlfriends, neighbors, strangers)
Disrespecting the values, beliefs, and opinions of another person when you do not agree with them
NAH :(
What is the difference between being assertive and being aggressive?
Aggressive communication focuses on achieving your needs and wants without any regard for the feelings or well-being of the person you are communicating with.
Telling your friend that everything is fine but complaining to your other friend
PASSIVE AGRESSIVE!!!!
How tall is Ms. Jameka?
4'11
What are the 4 different kinds of boundaries?
1) Material
2) Physical
3) Mental
4) Emotional
Feeling like you're responsible for "fixing" or "saving" others?
NAH :(
Being assertive is an example of...
Healthy Communication!
Negotiating with others
ASSERTIVE!!
Where is Ms. Meg, Ms. Bell, and Ms. Jessie meet?
VCU!
What is the best way to respond if someone has crossed a boundary of yours?
Communicate with the person and advocate for yourself!
Sometimes people may be unaware that they have crossed your boundaries, if you do not communicate that to them, they may cross your boundaries again in the future.
Having "me time" away from your boyfriend/girlfriend?
HEALTHY!!!!!
When it is important for us to be assertive?
(3/5 acceptable answers needed!)
1) When someone is doing something to upset us
2) When we need help
3) When someone else is in trouble or needs help
4) When we are going through a problem
5) When we see something that is not right
Saying no without feeling guilty
ASSERTIVE!
What is Ms. Bell's favorite thing to say?
I'm not your little friend!!!!