Physical & Emotional Boundaries
What is a boundary?
A limit we set to feel safe, respected, & comfortable.
Should you share your passwords?
No!
What is peer pressure?
Feeling pushed to do something because others are doing it.
What is a boundary you have set with your family?
ex. I don't want anyone at my house after 9pm.
What is the difference between a secret and a surprise?
Surprises are fun and short-term; secrets can be unsafe or harmful.
Give an example of a physical boundary.
ex. Not wanting to be hugged or touched without permission.
What should you do if someone online makes you uncomfortable?
Block/report them.
What’s one way to say “no” to a friend who’s pressuring you?
"That's not for me" "No thank you" "I rather not"
What could you do if a family member does not respect your boundaries?
Tell them what they did to overstep boundaries, reinforce boundaries, and create a plan so it doesn't happen again.
When is a secret not okay to keep?
When it makes you feel uncomfortable/unsafe or someone could get hurt.
What is an emotional boundary?
ex. Saying you’re not ready to talk about your feelings or needing space when upset.
What is one example of an online boundary?
ex. Not giving out personal information on video games or websites.
Can someone still be your friend if you don’t always agree with them?
Yes, healthy friends respect differences but let their friends know if they are doing something unsafe or that's not a good idea.
What is a respectful way to disagree with a family member?
Trying to stay calm & using our words, using "I" or "I feel" statements, like: “I see it differently,” or “I feel like you don't understand what I'm trying to say"
What should you do if someone tells you a secret that could be dangerous or harmful?
Tell a trusted staff member, even if they asked you not to.
True or False: You can change your boundaries at any time.
True!!
We often change our boundaries over time, and/or as your relationship with someone changes.
True or False: It is okay to keep chatting with someone online if they ask, "can you send me money for food"?
False. That’s a red flag.
Why is it hard to say “no” sometimes?
We might worry about being left out or judged.
True or False: It's ok to ask for privacy.
True: we all deserve personal space and time to ourselves!
Is it snitching if you’re keeping someone safe?
No. It’s being responsible.
What should you do if someone ignores your boundary?
Speak up & let them know!
If it continues, it may be a good idea to evaluate your relationship with this person, give yourself some space from them, and/or cut contact with them.
Why is it important to log out of accounts on public computers?
To protect your privacy and keep your info safe.
What’s one way to stand up for your values in a group?
Be honest, stay calm, and walk away if needed.
What are the signs that a boundary you set is being respected?
They stop when you ask, listen to your feelings, and follow your request.
Why do some people tell others to “keep it a secret”?
To avoid consequences — but if it feels wrong, tell someone.