Communication styles
This communication style involves prioritizing the needs of others, even at your own expense.
What is Passive Communication?
This style is characterized by letting almost anyone get close and being overly trusting of others.
What are Porous Boundaries?
This type of boundary refers to how you manage your personal space and physcial touch?
What are Physical Boundaries?
This nonverbal cue involves maintaining steady visual focus on the speaker to show you are paying attention.
What is eye contact?
This type of communication tool focuses on your own feelings rather than blaming the other person, typically starting with the word "I."
What is an "I" statement?
A person using this communication style expresses that only their own needs, wants, and feelings matter.
What is Aggressive Communication?
A person with this boundary style is very guarded with personal infromation and tends to ignore others' opinions.
What are Rigid Boundaries?
This boundary type involves how you share and protect your feelings.
What are Emotional Boundaries?
This technique involves summarizing or repeating back what the speaker said in your own words to confirm understanding.
What is paraphrasing (or reflecting)?
This unhelpful conflict style involves completely ignoring the problem, changing the subject, or walking away from the conversation.
What is avoidance?
Standing up for your own rights, using a confident tone, and making good eye contact are all signs of this style.
What is Assertive Communication?
Being selective about whom to let on and taking time to build trust are marks of this style.
What are Healthy Boundaries?
Being excessively stingy or, conversely, overspending in a way that doesn't serve your well-being relates to this boundary type.
What are Material/Financial Boundaries?
These types of questions require more than a simple "yes" or "no" answer and encoruage the speaker to elborate.
What are open-ended questions?
This healthy conflict outcome occurs when both parties make small concessions to reach a mutually acceptable agreement.
What is compromise?
This communication style is often characterized by lack of confidence and poor eye contact.
What is Passive Communication?
Communicating passively and avoiding conflict by giving in are common traits of this boundary style.
What are Porous Boundaries?
Allowing others to dictate your schedule or, on the other extreme, never being flexible, are issues with this boundary type.
What are Time Boundaries?
This common communication barrier occurs when you are busy planning what you will say next instead of actually hearing the speaker.
What is rehearsing?
Taking a brief, agreed-upon pause from a heated argument to regulate your emotions before continuing is known as taking one of these.
What is a timeout?
Role Play: A friend asks to borrow your car, but it would be a big inconvenience to you. How would you respond assertively?
Example: "I need my car that day, but I would be happy to give you a ride."
Role Play: A friend you haven't seen in a while shows up at your house uninvited, but you are very busy. How would you set a healthy boundary?
Example: "It's great to see you! I am really busy right now, but I'd love to get together soon. Can we plan something for next week?"
Role Play: A relative constantly belittles or mocks your personal beliefs and life choices during family dinners, dismissing them as "silly" or "wrong." How do you set a firm, healthy intellectual boundary to stop this behavior without starting a massive family argument?
Example: "I value our relationship, but I don't feel comfortable or respected when you dismiss my beliefs. I am happy to talk about other topics, but if we can't respect our differences here, I am going to step away from the table."
Role Play: Your partner is venting about a highly stressful day at work. Demonstrate an active listening response that validates their feelings without trying to "fix" the problem.
Example: "it sounds like you had an incredibly overwhelming day and you are feeling drained, Tell me more about what happened."
Role Play: A coworker takes credit for your idea in a team meeting. Using an "I" statement, how would you address this with them privately?
Example: "I felt frustrated when my idea was presented as yours in the meeting. In the future, I would appreciate it if we acknowledge each other's contributions."