Boundaries
What is a boundary?
Limits you create between yourself and other people / what's okay and not okay/ something that allows you to define what's acceptable in your relationships, etc.
True or False: It's healthy for a partner to constantly contact you in order to confirm where you are, what you're doing, and who you are with
False
If Your Partner or Friend Makes You Feel Like Every Problem in The Relationship is Your Fault, What Kind of Relationship is That?
Unhealthy Relationship
What is One Unhealthy Way to Engage in Conflict?
Yelling / Shouting / Blaming / Getting Physical / Name Calling / Belittling
What Does It Mean To Have Good Self Care?
To be able to care for your own needs / Doing Things for Yourself / Prioritizing Yourself
What is an example of a financial boundary?
Which Should Be True of Friendships:
A. They grow and change
B. They are build on dependency
C. They are threatened by other relationships
A. They grow and change
What Are Indicators of a Healthy Relationship? Name Two.
Mutual Respect / Trust / Honesty / Open Communication / Kindness / Support / Reliability / Equality
What is Something You Can Do to Regulate During or After a Disagreement?
Limit the length of a discussion / remove yourself / practice breathing exercises / Reframe negative thoughts / Take a Walk / Find a Quiet Place
What Does it Mean to Feel Important?
To feel you are good at something / Have value to others / Value to yourself / Contributing to something beyond yourself
What could you do if someone crosses a boundary?
Reinforce you boundary / decide not to interact with that person / adjust how you interact with that person
True or False: If My Partner isnt Jealous, They Must Not Like Me
False.
Jealousy and love don't necessarily go together. A partner can be completely into you and also completely trusting of you, making them feel like there is nothing to be jealous about. When we see jealousy as a sign of love in our relationships, we may put up with unhealthy jealous behaviors from our partners that can signal control or possessiveness
Is It Healthy to Be Separately Involved in Activities or Organizations Outside of Your Relationship? Why or Why Not?
Yes.
This helps to ensure you can maintain your own individuality and identity, allowing you to be defined by things outside of your relationship / Encourages personal growth, / Reduces Codependency
What is One Way You Can Avoid Making Your Partner/Friend/Family Member Defensive When Talking About a Difficult Issue?
Use "I" statements / Talk about your own feelings / Try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid making accusations
How Do You Know When Your Loved One Respects You?
They listen to you, value your opinion, honor your boundaries, are truthful (even when it's hard), they're reliable, they treat you with kindness (even when they disagree with you) , they apologize when they make a mistake, listen to your concerns, etc.
Should Everyone Share the Same Emotional Boundaries? Explain.
No. Boundaries look different for everyone and are a reflection of our own needs and values, which can look different for different people.
True or False: If I Ask My Partner to Hang Out and They Say They'd Rather Spend Time Alone, Something Must be Wrong.
False. Taking time for yourself is normal and healthy!
Which of The Following is NOT a Quality of a Healthy Relationship? Explain Why.
A. Commitment
B. Control
C. Respect
D. Support
Control.
Control can undermine trust and respect. When one partner tries to control the other, is signals a lack of trust and respect. This can also lead to isolation and dependence, power imbalances, and can escalate in some situations to abuse.
Is Conflict The Same As Fighting?
No.
A conflict is a condition in a relationship in which one or both parties do not like the way the other is behaving. A fight is a way of addressing conflict in which the goal is to try to make the other person lose.
What Type of Boundary is Most Frequently Violated in Relationships?
This can look like disregarding another person's feelings, invalidating someone's emotions, excessive criticism, manipulation, guilt tripping, etc.
Name Three Types of Boundaries
Physical / Emotional / Sexual / Intellectual / Material / Time / Spiritual
What is one way to ensure you and a friend, partner, or family member are communicating effectively?
You both listen, ask questions, are honest with one another, etc.
What are some signs that you and a loved one are NOT communicating effectively?
You are afraid to express how you feel and/or what your wants and needs are, you dread or avoid conversations, you or your loved one make assumptions and/or criticize, there are frequent misunderstandings, when communicating about an issue, it escalates into a conflict
What Are Some Things That Can Turn a Conflict Into a Fight?
Threats / Ultimatums / Accusing Without Listening / Being Unwilling to Apologize / Competition for Power / Failure to show Empathy / Experiencing High Levels of Stress / Miscommunication
What Is The Difference Between Love and Infatuation?
Infatuation typically involves intense passion, excitement, and a desire to be physically close, along with a tendency to idolize the other person. It's short-lived and can fade quickly once the excitement wears off.
Love is often a deeper emotion that develops over time and involves a mutual respect and a desire to care for the other person