Boundaries & Consent
True or False - Everyone has the same boundaries
False
What are some examples of different kinds of relationships between people?
Family, friend, spouse, neighbour, support worker, etc.
Give an example of one way that someone can have power over someone else in a relationship
Roles: teacher/student, boss/employee, support worker/client
AND/OR
Behaviour: withholding money, not providing needed care/support, controlling behaviour
What does the right to get help & support mean?
You have the right to talk to trusted people and report abuse if someone makes you feel unsafe
Before kissing, one person says, “I’d really like to kiss you right now. Is that okay?” The other person says yes.
Wanted Touch
Consent means getting the person's _____ beforehand
permission
In a healthy relationship, both people agree to be in it and shouldn’t be forced to_________
Do things they don't want to
Name a red flag that shows a relationship may be unhealthy.
Criticism, threats, controlling behavior, etc.
The Right to Privacy means what?
Includes having others knock before entering your room, and being able to keep personal things to yourself.
Lisa is sitting with a man she just met. He leans in and kisses her on the cheek without asking. Lisa feels surprised and uncomfortable.
Unwanted Touch
This can change depending on who you are with, such as a friend vs. a stranger
Personal Space, Boundary
List 3 qualities of someone who you would consider to be a good friend
Some answers could include:
Kindness, honesty, humour, respectful
When a friend or partner often makes fun of you, this is not a joke—it’s a sign of this.
Emotional Abuse or Bullying
You have the right to learn about your body and feelings. Where might you get this information?
Books, Videos, Attending a sexuality group, asking a support staff or trusted person questions
Sarah is upset, and her friend asks if she wants a hug. Sarah opens her arms up and they hug each other.
Wanted Touch
You notice someone not responding when you asked for consent. What should you assume?
They are not giving consent
What are some things that make a relationship ‘Healthy’?
Some Examples:
-When you feel good about yourself and the other person, and feel safe with them
-You can trust each other
-You can be honest with each other
-Both people agree to be in the relationship, and aren’t forced to do things they don’t want to do
This behavior involves using threats, fear, or guilt to make someone do something.
Manipulation or Blackmail
Consent
Jessica is talking to someone she just met. He puts his hand on her thigh without asking. Jessica does not like it.
Unwanted Touch
True of False: consent must be given freely and can be taken back or changed at any time
True
What makes a romantic/sexual relationship different from a friendship?
The level of sharing, touch and trust that we have with people in these relationships is very different.
What are some ways to tell if the relationship is unhealthy/abusive?
Lying, feeling trapped, scared, or anxious, jealous, cheating, no choices or control, abuse, violence, mistrust, isolation
True or False - the 'right to a family' means you MUST have a family?
FALSE!
You can choose to be single, married, partnered, and have children or not! YOU DECIDE what you're 'family' looks like!
Jamie wants to date Avery. Avery looks uncomfortable, laughs but eventually says they are not interested. Jamie keeps asking Avery out.
Unwanted Touch- laughing can sometimes show someone is uncomfortable.