Types of Boundaries
Someone stands way too close to you in line
Physical boundary
Someone cuts in line. How do we set that boundary?
Ask them to please move out of your spot in line and seek staff intervention if they continue to not move.
“Someone says ‘I don’t care’ and shuts down instead of responding”
Setting too rigid of a boundary
Someone keeps interrupting you and laughing about it
“Let me finish. It’s not funny.”
What happens if you don’t set boundaries?
Someone copies your work or ideas and claims them as their own
A friend keeps taking your stuff without asking—how would you set that boundary?
Have a conversation about asking before they take your stuff and explain the consequences that will happen if they continue their behavior.
Someone says ‘leave me alone’ but keeps engaging and arguing.
Not holding their end of their own boundary
Someone calls you a name but says “I’m just joking”
“I don’t care if you’re joking—don’t call me that.”
What happens if you ignore others’ boundaries?
A friend keeps venting to you but doesn't care about how you feel
Emotional boundary
Someone pressures you to do something illegal-how would you set your boundary?
Remain firm on your unwillingness to do things that break the law
Someone gets mad but says nothing, then blows up later
Ignoring when boundaries are crossed until i becomes too much
Your friend says “if you were really my friend you’d do this”
“No. I’m not doing that.”
What happens when boundaries turn into aggression?
Trouble, discipline, fights
You're trying to sleep and someone keeps bothering you
Time boundary
Staff tells you to stop talking and you keep going—how can staff be more firm in their boundary?
Issue verbals, writtens, or IPs until the desired outcome is achieved
Someone blames everyone else for ‘making them act that way’
Isn't holding boundaries and crossing their own boundaries
Someone is in your space, you’re already irritated, and they don’t move when you look at them
"Please give me space."
How do boundaries help relationships?
Build trust/respect
Someone takes your hoodie or snacks without asking
Material boundary
You say no but someone keeps pushing—how can you remain firm in your boundary?
Remove yourself from the situation or seek help from people who may have more power to change the situation
Someone says ‘I tried a boundary but it didn’t work’ after saying it once and giving up
Doesn't set and hold consistent boundaries
Staff gives you a direction you think is unfair, and everyone else is complaining too
“I don’t agree, but I’ll do it.”
What happens if you avoid everything instead of setting boundaries?
You lose control over your own life