Types of Boundaries
Rigid, Porous, or Healthy?
How To Set Boundaries
Crazy Time (Boundary Violation)
Crazy Time (Boundary Setting)
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The boundary that entails personal space and physical touch
What are Physical Boundaries?
100
- This boundary avoids intimacy and close relationships.
- Unlikely to ask for help.
- Keeps others at a distance.
What are rigid boundaries?
100
What three things do we want to avoid in boundary setting?
1. "You" Statements
2. "Ghosting"
3. Gossiping
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James the TEP Ghost is leaving their personal items on the community bathroom countertop.
What is a physical boundary violation?
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A peer in the community is hoarding warmies
"Hey [insert peer here]. I have noticed that you have more than one warmie in your room. I understand that it is easy to lose track of how many you have. Would it be possible to check your room first before you ask for another warmie? This will help everyone in the community get along better and have more fun."
200
Refers to money and possessions
What are Material Boundaries?
200
- Overshares personal information.
- Difficulty saying "no" to others.
- Dependent on the opinions of others.
What are porous boundaries?
200
What are three things we could do before setting a boundary?
1. Goal Setting
2. Practice
3. Grounding Skills
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Bongo Cat is spending too much time in the studio and is neglecting their homework.
What is an Internal Time boundary violation?
200
POV: Vecna (from stranger things) continually expresses their feelings about Elle to you, even when you have asked him to stop.
"Vecna, I have set a boundary that I do not want to discuss your problems with Elle. I feel uncomfortable when these discussions are taking place. I am asking that moving forward, this boundary being respected. I hope to maintain an effective friendship by doing this."
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Refers to how the person uses their time.
What are Time boundaries?
300
- Values own opinions.
- Shares personal information in an appropriate manner.
- Accepting when others say "no" to them.
What are Healthy Boundaries?
300
What two DBT skills can we use to set a boundary?
DEARMAN
GIVEFAST
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You gave permission to a peer to use your switch for fortnite and they are playing animal crossing and are unwilling to give it back and continuously saying "just 5 more minutes"
What is a material boundary violation?
300
Bongo Cat needs to set a boundary with themselves about time spent in the studio.
Bongo cat needs to set an internal boundary which may consist of setting a timer for 1 hour of playing and equal that out with 1 hour of homework.
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Refers to a person's feelings. Can include limitations on when to share, and when to not share, personal information
What are Emotional Boundaries?
400
TEP's No Touch Policy
What is a rigid boundary?
400
How can you handle someone who doesn’t take your boundary seriously?
- Firmly restate your boundary
- Re-evaluate your relationship
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Eddie Munson begins to "trauma dump" about his time in the upside down.
What is an emotional boundary violation?
400
POV: You are Trisha Paytas, and your mom say, "that is so stupid that you named your child Malibu Barbie".
"Mom, I would appreciate, in the future, if you could not comment on what I named my child".
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Refers to the persons thought and ideas. Can include appropriate discussion and respect for others' ideas.
What are intellectual boundaries?
500
Allowing a distant relative to comment on your eating habits
What is a porous boundary?
500
State Each Letter of DEAR MAN and GIVE FAST
D- Describe E- Express/Explain A-Assert R-Reinforce
M- Mindful A-Appear Confident N-Negotiate
G-Gentle I-Interested V-Validate E-Easy Manner
F- Fair A- (no) Apologies S-Stick to Values T-Truthful
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POV: You're Bella and Jacob just nicknamed your daughter after the loch ness monster.
What is an intellectual or emotional boundary?
500
Jacob Black asks you "where the heck have you been loca" and is starting to get mad at you for how much time you have been spending with Edward Cullen. 
"Hey Jacob, I understand that you don't like Edward. However, I see Edward as a friend and would like to keep spending time with him. I am able to choose where I spend my time. You would like to hang out tomorow?"