Understanding Shame
This is the intense feeling of being unworthy of love and belonging.
What is shame?
We can't avoid shame entirely, but we can build resilience against it with this key skill that provides evidence contrary to the belief we hold about ourselves.
What is empathy?
These are specific events or categories that activate feelings of shame.
What are shame triggers?
Doing this with trusted others can reduce shame’s power, even though fear of judgment can be a barrier.
What is reaching out?
What is peaking shame?
embracing and expressing this in ourselves helps counter shame and build stronger connections.
What is authenticity?
Healing shame involves recognizing its presence and practicing this to foster connections.
What is vulnerability?
This safe space for sharing reduces the power of shame and builds connection.
What is an empathetic space?
The knowledge of where one is open to attack.
Exploring these personal areas can help us understand and manage our shame better.
What are vulnerabilities?
The fear of this often holds people back from seeking support for their shame.
What is fear of rejection?
This process, which involves aligning our actions with our values, helps us feel less affected by shame.
What is living authentically?
Recognizing these internal sensations, like discomfort and the urge to hide, can help us identify shame.
What are physical signs of shame?
Empathy requires these four key actions, including perspective-taking and recognizing emotions.
What are the elements of practicing empathy?
These behaviors or defenses protect us from feeling shame but can keep us from connecting authentically.
What are shame screens?
We can only be ____ to the extent that we are___
What is loved and known?
This practice involves being true to oneself to foster genuine relationships and reduce shame’s power.
What is self-acceptance?
Common emotional signs of shame include these feelings, which can often lead to isolation.
What are feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness?
We hide this part of ourselves from others' love/connection
What is shadow self?
What is unwanted identities?
This feeling of wanting to hide or escape is a common reaction to shame triggers.
What is the urge to withdraw?
Receiving this from others can create a buffer against shame’s isolating effects.
What is support?
What is empathy?
This concept we hold about ourselves dictates what we allow into our lives.
What is self-worth?
This practice involves being aware of societal messages that fuel shame.
What is critical awareness?
This is crucial to counter shame because it helps us validate our own and others' experiences.
What is connection?
Identifying these subconscious influences can help us understand what triggers shame in our lives.
What are underlying beliefs?
finding and building this can create a foundation for resilience against shame.
What is community?
This is a key factor in shame resilience because it helps us resist the pressure to be perfect.
What is accepting imperfection?