Relationship Chacteristics
What was the name of our Gingerbread Person?
Healthy Relationship Henry
More or less equal "give or take" within a relationship
What are boundaries within a relationship?
Someone you know but have never met
Stranger
What is internal motivation and an example?
Definition: Your motivation to accomplish your goal comes from within you. It is determined by your own values and goals.
Example: I will go to class every day this semester so that I can learn as much as possible
You and your partner feel like you can share things wit one another and also keep things private.
This is a HEALTHY characteristic!
What are the 3 types of reciprocity?
General
Balanced (Equal)
Negative (Unequal)
What type of language or communication do you use when setting a boundary (HAVE to model this)
Assertive Communication, open body language, eye contact, etc.
Someone who rarely see and know little about
Acquaintance
What is external motivation and an example?
Your motivation to attain your goal comes from a source outside yourself
Examples: Only getting A's so you have get money from parents for good grades
Your partner believes they should have a say in who your friends are and who you spend time with in general.
Overall, this is mainly viewed as an unhealthy characteristic, however, it also depends
What is _____ reciprocity and an example?
Definition: Generalized reciprocity is an exchange involving no value calculation or instant repayment.
Example: (Could be) Volunteering at a homeless shelter
What are Porous Boundaries?
Let almost anyone in/get close, overshares personal information, has difficulty saying "no" to others, avoids conflict by giving in, communicates passively, quickly adopts others opinions, overly trusting
Someone you like but don't spend much time with
Casual Friend
Your partner sometimes gets jealous when they see you talking to certain people on social media because they consider it flirting.
In general, this would be considered unhealthy and it depends.
You miss your partner when you go on vacation with your family, but end of having a really good time anyways.
This is a HEALTHY relationship characteristic.
What is _____ reciprocity and an example?
Balanced (Equal): Equal give and take in a relationship
Example: You get your friend a gift for their birthday, and they also get you a gift for your birthday; presents are usually pretty equal in dollar value
What kind of boundaries may someone have if they have: trouble letting people in, keep people at a distance, very guarded
Rigid Boundaries
Someone you trust and are committed to
Close Friend
What is the difference between relationally-based and transitionally-based relationships?
A Transactional Relationship is one that is based on reciprocity and needs. In a transactional relationship, both parties expect to receive something in return for their investment.; Transactional relationship is therefore centered on self-benefits. It spins around the question, "What do I get out of this?"
You and your partner agree to take the night off from texting or calling each other, and while you are out with friends, your partner calls and texts you multiple times to say they miss you.
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What is an example of ______ reciprocity and an example?
Negative Reciprocity: Negative reciprocity is a situation where one party acts in their interest because of profits or other material benefits.
Example (Could be): A student helps his teacher with making copies after school, however, only does so to have potential access to test answers on an upcoming test.
What are some characteristics of healthy boundaries?
Takes time to build trust, selective about whom they let in, values their own and others opinions, stands by personal values but can adapt, communicates assertively, able to say "no" when needed, shares person information appropriately
Someone you share anything with without fear of judgement and trust
Intimate friend
How well do you know your staff?
Out of the adults in this room, what is something you know about their interests, likes, or dislikes?