Working it out
True or False? In every conflict, there is a winner and a loser.
False
Name a person in history who worked to stop discrimination non-violently.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Rosa Parks
Jackie Robinson
Susan B. Anthony
Who is responsible for preventing bullying at our school?
Everyone
True or False?
No one else can MAKE you mad.
True
Name five feeling words
Sad
glad
mad
angry
afraid
happy
excited
frustrated
joyful
irritated
bored
lonely
furious
True or False? It is possible to de-escalate a conflict after the other person has called you names.
True
Define prejudice.
Prejudice is an unfair attitude; pre-judging a person without really knowing him or her
True or False? Bullying is a normal part of growing up?
False
Name two physical signs of your body’s anger response.
Fast heartbeat
hot skin
clenched fists
shaking hands
Which communication style works best in most cases?
Assertive
What is a compromise?
When both people win a little and lose a little.
Name two types of prejudice.
Age
gender
racial/ethnic
class
physical
religious
Name one good thing a target can do about bullying.
Speak up and tell the bully to stop; be assertive, report the bullying.
Name two good ways to reduce angry feelings.
Relax yourself
distract yourself
talk to yourself
Name two characteristics of a passive communication style
Little or no eye contact
nervous
apologetic
slumped shoulders
don’t stand up for themselves
What are the ABC’s of solving conflicts?
Attack the problem, not the person; Brainstorm together; Consider the consequences and choose win-win.
What is a stereotype?
A fixed idea about a whole group of people;
e.g., all girls are silly, All children are trouble, all Asians are smart.
Name two good things a witness can do about bullying
Support the target, report the bullying; provide safety in numbers.
Name one thing you could say to yourself to reduce your angry feelings.
Calm down
They’re trying to make me mad but I won’t give them the satisfaction
I can handle this
Give an example of an I-message
I feel _________ when you _________ because _________. I want _______.
Name three things you can do to escalate a conflict.
Use words like “let’s”, “we,” “our” and “together. Call the other person by name: Relax your body; Use a calm voice; Ask to her the other point of view.
If someone makes a prejudiced remark, what can you do without making it worse?
Speak up, change the subject, or walk away
Define bullying
Bullying is repeatedly hurting, threatening, teasing, or frightening someone else in order to feel powerful
Name two good things to do or say when you feel angry.
Walk away
use an I-message
Use humor
Name three characteristics of an aggressive communication style.
Loud
rude
sarcastic
in your face
name-calling
blaming
threatening
you-messages
pointing finger
shaking fists
glaring eye contact