True or False
Tattling vs. Reporting
Upstander
Aggressive, Assertive or Passive
Scenarios
100
There are only 3 types of bullying.
False. There are four types of bullying: physical, verbal, social and cyber.
100
When you are tattling on someone, you are trying to...
Get the person IN trouble.
100
What is a bystander?
A bystander is someone who sees bullying happen but does NOTHING about it.
100
When you handle a situation in an aggressive way, it usually makes the situation...
It usually makes the situation WORSE!
100
"How dare you! You are cheating! Can you look at your own paper?" Is this an example of an I-Message?
No. It's missing the FIRST part: "I feel _____."
200
Adults can never be bullies.
False. Bullying comes in ALL sizes!
200
When should you report?
If someone is in danger, hurt or is being bullied.
200
What is an upstander?
An upstander is someone who stands up or speaks up to bullying.
200
TRUE or FALSE: An assertive person would handle a conflict by using an I-MESSAGE
True! I-Messages are very helpful in handling a conflict.
200
John keeps seeing his classmate get bullied. He and his friends decide to tell the bully: "We don't like it when you bully him. It's not fair. We want you to stop." Is this an example of being an upstander?
Yes! He is standing up to bullying. He and his friends grouped together and used a "we" message.
300
Having a disagreement with a friend is NOT bullying.
True. Conflict and bullying are different. Conflict is a part of life and there is no imbalance of power. Bullying is intentional and involves an imbalance of power.
300
What is a consequence of tattling?
If you keep tattling on a person, that person might not want to be friends with you since you're trying to get them IN trouble.
300
TRUE or FALSE: One way to be an upstander is to report bullying to an adult.
True!
300
TRUE or FALSE: A passive person would normally yell and invade someone's personal space during a conflict.
False. An aggressive person would normally yell and invade other's personal space.
300
Jackson saw his friend get pushed around and teased by a group of boys. He doesn't want to tell his teacher because he doesn't want to be considered a "tattle-tale". If he told his teacher, would this be considered tattling?
No! His friend is getting bullied and could get hurt. This would be considered reporting.
400
An example of social bullying is leaving someone out on purpose.
True!
400
You see a student not doing his work and you let the teacher know. Is this tattling? Why or why not?
It is considered tattling. It has nothing to do with you and no one was in danger or hurt.
400
TRUE or FALSE: One way to be an upstander is to not JOIN with others. It is best to stand up to bullying on your own.
False. There are power in numbers! It is best to group together and use a "we" message.
400
Describe what a passive person would LOOK like.
A passive person would not be making eye contact, their head may be down, slumped shoulders, could be moving away/leaving a situation.
400
Paul is having a rough day at school. He became frustrated during math because he did not like that activity. He decided to yell at his teachers and rip his assignment sheets. What communication style is Paul demonstrating (passive, aggressive or assertive)? Is this making the situation worse or better?
Paul is showing an aggressive communication style. It is making the situation worse. Remember, when you respond to a situation aggressively, it makes the situation WORSE!
500
The Win/Win guidelines can be used to solve bullying instances.
FALSE. The Win/Win guidelines can help solve conflict. Bullying needs to be solved by an adult.
500
If there is a situation that does not involve you and it is not dangerous, should you tell an adult?
No because it is considered tattling!
500
Name three ways to be an upstander.
1. Tell the bully to stop in an assertive way 2. Report it to an adult 3. Include others that are left out so they are less likely to be teased. 4. Group together - use a "we" message
500
Describe what an assertive person would SOUND or LOOK like.
An assertive person would have a calm tone, good listening skills, good verbal skills, good eye contact, uses appropriate personal space.
500
Tim and Randy have been arguing all day. Tim has been getting frustrated when Randy whistles. Tim respectfully told Randy, "I am feeling frustrated when you whistle. Can you try to whistle outside?" What communication style is Tim demonstrating? (passive, aggressive or assertive)? Is this making the situation worse or better?
Tim is being assertive. He is using an I-Message to try and solve the problem. This is making the situation better!
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