Basics of a conflict
What is a conflict?
A problem between people with at least 2 sides
What is the basic formula for an I message?
I feel _____
when you _____
because ______
I want _______
What is escalation?
When a conflict grows stronger.
What is a bully?
Someone who repeatedly threatens, hurts, teases, or frightens other people.
What does is it mean to cooperate?
When people work together to accomplish a goal.
Name some things that can happen if a conflict ends peacefully
Friendship, peace treaties, agreements.
When can you use an I message?
In a conflict, or simply to express your feelings.
What is de-escalation?
When a conflict becomes more calm.
What is a target?
Someone who is threatened or hurt.
What does it mean to compete?
When people work or play against each other to find out who wins.
Why do people have conflicts?
Because people have differences.
What is a zinger?
lashing out instead of saying how we feel
What is something that would escalate a conflict?
Raising your voice.
Name calling.
Threatening.
Pushing.
True or False: What works for one person in one bullying situation may not work in another.
True
What are 2 examples of cooperation?
Group assignments.
Family projects.
What does it mean "agree to disagree"?
It's okay if we don't agree about something. We don't put each other down for having different opinions.
What are two words to avoid when using "I feel____"
Like
That
What is something that would de-escalate a conflict?
Lowering your voice.
Relaxing your face and body.
Calling the other person by their name.
Using I-messages.
What are some possible ideas to help a target?
Try to be their friend.
Tell a parent or teacher.
Tell them to stop.
What are 2 examples of competition?
In a conflict, what are 2 things you can do to show respect for someone else?
- call the person by their name (instead of name calling)
- look at each other (without making faces)
- listen to each other (without interrupting)
- ask questions (to show you want to understand)
Name a reason why it is a good idea to follow an I message?
It shows your point of view.
It tells the other person how you see the problem.
It helps you to share your feelings honestly.
It starts you out in the right direction, heading toward a solution.
The stronger a conflict grows, the harder it is to _______.
Solve / de-escalate.
How can you show courage to a bully?
Stay calm.
Stand tall.
Speak up.
Why is it better to cooperate in a conflict (rather than to compete)?
The goal of a conflict is to solve the problem WITH the other person, not compete against them.