I Statements
Why do we use I Statements?
I Statements help us communicate our feelings to people we trust
Define coping skills
A coping skill is ANYTHING healthy and safe that helps us feel better
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves and what type of thoughts we have about ourselves
There are positive feelings & negative feelings.
False
Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong, they are just feelings. You have a choice in how you express them, which can result in positive or negative consequences
Name 3 people who help you feel better
mom, dad, friend, teacher, sibling...
What is the I Statement template?
I feel...
when...
because....
I need ....
Name 3 healthy coping skills for anger
Breathing, wall pushes, fidgets, asking for help, etc....
Give 2 examples of a negative self-talk / negative self-esteem statements
I am hate this!
I can't do this
I stink
You can have more than one feeling at a time.
True
Where in your body do you feel sadness?
Head, face, stomach, arms...
No right or wrong answer, we all feel emotions in our bodies differently.
Give an example of an I statement for --
Excited
I feel excited
when...
because....
I need ....
Name 3 unhealthy coping skills
Yelling, shutting down, pushing, etc...
Give 2 examples of a positive self-talk / positive self-esteem statements
I am awesome
I can do this
I tried my best
I can take a break if I need it
I am helpful
Ignoring your feelings always makes them go away
False.
Ignoring feelings will sometimes makes them grow more intense.
What advice could you give to someone who is having a hard time calming down?
Take a few deep breaths.
Walk away and then come back and try again.
This feeling is only temporary.
Give an example of an I Statement for --
Frustrated
I feel frustrated
when...
because....
I need ....
Name 3 healthy coping skills for anxiety / nervous
Breathing, asking for help, music, resting, etc..
Name 2 positive qualities of yourself!
ex: kind, funny, smart, friendly....
You need to practice your coping skills
True!
Do we need to keep practicing I Statements and Coping skills even when we don't need them or if we stop going to therapy?
YES!
Give an example of an I Statement for --
Anxious
I feel anxious
when...
because....
I need ....
Name your 5 favorite coping skills
5 coping skills
Name 5 positive qualities of yourself!
ex: kind, funny, smart, friendly
It might take time to figure out what coping skill works for a person.
True!
And your coping skills may change as you get older
Name 3 awesome things about Caiden!
Ask the group!