What is it?
"I'm never going to be successful, so why even waste time." is a form of rational or irrational thinking?
irrational
Once an addict always an addict
it's going to be a lot of work; I will follow my recovery plan. I can change.
Bob and Tess are married with two children. In therapy, Tess claims that Bob is mean with his money: checking grocery bills and yelling at the cost of their children’s birthday presents. Along with other relationship issues, conflict had led them to sleep in separate rooms.
Bob argues he works hard for his money and gives her a generous amount each month, but Tess spends beyond their means.
In time, therapy helps them become more supportive of one another, giving up their underlying power struggles and successfully moving away from stereotypical gender roles.
Define the ABC formula
activating event
belief how you should react
consequence
When I was young, me and my mama had beef
17 years old, kicked out on the streets
Though back at the time I never thought I'd see her face
Ain't a woman alive that could take my mama's place
Suspended from school, and scared to go home, I was a fool
With the big boys breakin' all the rules
What are the four parts of the thinking report? how can it impact your behavior or actions.
description of situation, thoughts you had about the situation, feelings you had about situation, attitudes and belief
Everyone must treat me fair is a form of _____ statement and irrational belief.
entitlement
Despite Indira and Sanjay Singh moving to the United States while they were still at preschool age, they have retained the cultural and moral values of their place of birth: India. When their two children were born, they were also taught to be compliant and respect their parents, while friends from school were discouraged.
what's the problem?
confrontation in programming cultural norms.
may offend someone
Define the victim stance and how a criminal may use it.
The criminal sees themselves as the victim. it is always someone else's behavior that causes the problem.
I love it when you call me Big Poppa
Throw your hands in the air if you's a true player
I love it when you call me Big Poppa
To the honeys gettin' money, playin' fellas like dummies
I love it when you call me Big Poppa
What are the steps to breaking the behavior cycle?
identify the event
identify old tape
identify action
James notices every time he is bored, he smokes a lot more than usual. He also like to go into the back yard and hunt for strays when he has no plans. James' behavior is a form of ______
what can he use to counter this behavior?
Dangerous idleness
You get off on the wrong foot with a new coworker.
They ask you for help responding to a customer inquiry, but you refuse to lend a hand because you are working on a tight deadline and don't want to waste time. There has been tension between you two ever since, and now you need their help on a project, but they're not being very responsive.
Go own it! Find an appropriate time to walk up to them and say,"I understand that we got off on the wrong foot. My apologies for that. What I'm trying to resolve is X. Can we have a conversation about that?"
Regardless of who the conflict is with - an employee, your boss, etc., they'll think more highly of you if you demonstrate self-awareness. The conversation may be awkward, but that's better than a tense relationship that could last years all because you got off on the wrong foot.
Define criminal pride and provide an example of it.
criminal pride is linked to respect.
However, I stay Gucci down to the socks
Rings and watch filled with rocks
And my jam knock in the Mitsubishi
Girls pee pee when they see me
Jasmine is a 23yr old woman that gets pulled over to spending she has to hand over her license to a ______ authority and tell her ______ authority when she gets home.
which on focuses on personal welfare
impersonal
personal
personal authority is responsible for welfare
Halo has an hour between his classes every Tuesday, to hang out with his friends but that aligned trouble in his future, so he began using that time to practice new songs on the piano. Halo's new routine is an example of _____
what's his old tape?
healthy downtime.
You got a promotion that your friend at work was also gunning for. Now things are awkward between you two. You definitely want to keep the friendship going, but they aren't even speaking to you outside of team meetings.
Sharon suggests going up to the person and owning it. Tell them that you know it's an uncomfortable situation and that you'd like to continue the relationship. These situations are tough, but radical candor is important - learn more about how to practice it in the workplace here.
Define closed channel thinking and provide an example.
" I don't want to hear it."
"it's him not me."
lacks self-criticism.
Many men many many many many men
wish death pon me.
lord i don't cry no more.
Don't look to the sky no more.
have mercy on me.
Robin is a lifeguard at the local community pool and is always on her phone. Last week a little boy drowned on her shift that caused the pool to shut down the remaining of the summer. Who are the direct and indirect victims? Using the deal formula what might robin take from this situation
direct - robin, little boys family, friends
indirect - people who work at the pool
Identify positive aspects of healthy downtime in relation to the 11 areas of balance such as time with friends and family, spiritual involvement.
positive benefits in all areas
You're the first person to graduate within your immediate family and two decades, after graduation you noticed everyone has shifted their attitudes towards you using the deal formula how can you respond to this shift
stay away... no fast reactions.
Define the difference between fragmented thinking and concrete thinking.
concrete thinking refers to operating in black and white.
fragmented thinking is holding contrary or opposing beliefs, attitudes and emotions.
Nothing is promised to me and you
So why will we let this thing go
Baby I promise that I'll stay true
Don't let nobody say it ain't so
And baby I promise
That I will never leave
And everything will be alright, I
I promise these things to you
Girl just believe
I promise