CBT
Why are we utilizing or using CBT in treatment/group?
Efforts to change thinking patterns and old behaviors
What are values?
Values are believed and ideas about what is really important in life
Example of a Boundary that is too Rigid
Example: Bob is so worried that people will take advantage of him that he won't lend any money for lunch to his best friend, who left his wallet at home.
Give an example of a problem
-Significant other annoying you/getting on your nerves
-People at work are not doing their part, more work on you
- Overwhelmed with bills, financial responsibility
4 Main Communication styles
Aggressive
Passive Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
What does CBT stand for?
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
What often reflects our beliefs and ideas?
Our attitudes and behavior.
Example of a Boundary that is too Loose
Bill met a guy at the store. When the guy told Bill he didn't have a place to stay, Bill let him spend the night even though Bill did not know him. Bill's boundaries are too loose to protect him and his family.
Why is it important to think of possible solutions for problems?
To think before acting or reacting.
What is a passive aggressive response to a significant other asking for help with a barbecue that you did not want to do.
Saying you will help, but then not showing up.
Helping but being sarcastic or rude the entire time.
Ignoring/Avoiding your significant other entirely.
Use a manipulation tactics to get out of helping such as: Lying, purposely messing up, making excuses, purposely making it harder for significant other to possibly sway their mind to not do it entirely, etc.
What is does CBT do or explore?
How feelings and emotions can influence thoughts and how the thoughts can influence behavior.
Name five values important to you!
Honesty Willingness Home Sobriety
Family Love Protection Money
Trust Safety Gratitude Recovery
loyalty respect spirituality Open-mindedness.
Example of a Boundary that is Healthy
What do I do if my 1st solution isn't working?
Try something else, keep trying until a solution works. Overtime, decision making will be easier and better.
What are some feelings on the inside that may be covered up by Anger on the outside?
Any uncomfortable feelings:
Sadness, fear, shame, love, guilt, grief, confusion, loneliness and etc.
What are the 5 level of needs?
1. Basic needs
2. Safety needs
3. Social needs
4. Self esteem needs
5. Highest potential
Why is it important to build character, identity, and self-worth in the long-term?
Life brings daily conflicts and challenges. These can either destroy you or built you up. Don't let them destroy you. Instead, practice healthy values. This will build character and self worth.
Example of a Boundary that is Unhealthy
Why is it important to have problem solving skills?
Learning how to solve problems is essential to leading a satisfying life. It allows us to think without judgment, showing us that there are many perspectives to any issue, and many innovative solutions to any problem.
What is the assertiveness formula?
I feel.....
When you....
Because.....
I want/need.....
The 5 steps to Changing the Pain of the Past into Possibilities for the Future
What are:
1. Things that don't kill us, makes us Stronger
2. Watch your Thinking
3. Avoid the Blame game
4. Feel your feelings
5. Practice
The 6 stages of change
What are:
1. Pre-awareness
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Taking Action
5. Avoiding Relapse
6. Maintenance
Benefits of Setting Boundaries
Setting limits can provide balance in your life. Some of the benefits of setting boundaries include:
7 steps to problem solving
1. What's the problem?
2. What do you want to happen?
3. What are some possible solutions and what are the consequences of each solution?
4. What's the best solution?
5. Try it.
6. Is it working?
7. If not try something else.
What is the difference between Anger, Hostility, and Aggression?
Anger is an emotion that tells you something is wrong.
Hostility is a negative attitude directed towards others.
Aggression is a behavior that harms and humiliates others.