Anger 101
What is an anger trigger?
Something or someone that triggers extreme feelings of anger?
What is self-awareness and why is it important when it comes to anger?
Being aware of OURSELVES, what makes us angry, how we react to anger, and how anger effects us overall. It is important for us to be aware of these things so we can help regulate (control) ourselves and our anger.
What are the two typical (negative) responses to anger?
Shut down/isolate and explode/crash out.
If you choose to forgive, who is that forgiveness for?
YOURSELF
Name two different ways we can show someone we are actively listening to them:
Eye contact
Body language
Clarify/ask questions
Give feedback/responses
Avoid being distracting/distracted
Validate the other person's feelings
Name three different aspects of our lives where anger impacts us:
View of self/self-esteem
Home life/school life
Friends/relationships
Jobs/Sports teams
Your future
True or False: Self-Awareness is something we only need to achieve once. Once we have it, we always have it.
False! Self-Awareness is something we should always be working towards. You can be self-aware about somethings and not others.
What does it mean to self-regulate?
Control ourselves/our actions: especially when we are angry!
True or False: "Sorry" is an empathetic statement.
FALSE. A one word response is never enough to be empathetic. How would you feel if you were feeling terrible and thats all someone said to you.
Name one of three healthy de-escalation techniques that we've talked about:
Walk away
Talk it through and problem solve
Seek help
True or False: We can control our anger.
FALSE! This is a trick question. When it comes to our emotions, no, we cannot control what/who/why we become angry. The only thing we can control is HOW WE REACT to anger.
What impacts the way we deal with anger?
Our surroundings and/or our past experiences
Why is it important for us to be responsible when angry?
A decision we make when we are angry can last way longer than the feeling of anger.
How is social awareness different from self-awareness when it comes to anger?
Self-awareness is about being aware of our anger and how it affects US, social awareness refers to how our anger affects others/our relationships.
Name one of the three common causes of conflict
Misunderstanding
Difference in values/opinion
Rule/norm breaking
Name 5 other emotions that are related to anger:
Frustration, disappointment, sadness, loneliness, fear, shame, guilt, anxiety, rage, stress, resentment, confusion, disgust, offended, regretful, depressed, jealous, shocked, abandoned, vulnerable, worried, tired, hurt, hungry, insecure, overwhelmed, etc.
Name three physical signs of anger:
Increased heart rate, redness in the face, muscle tension, clenched jaw, grinding teeth, intense eye contact, furrowed brow, chest pain/tightness, shaking, headaches, etc.
What are coping skills?
The things we do to lift ourselves up and feel better when we are experiencing negative emotions.
Why is it important to understand the perspective of another person?
To avoid/resolve conflict
What is assertiveness (how is it different from aggression)?
Assertiveness is standing up for ourself, our beliefs, and our values in a direct, firm, and respectful manner.
Aggressive behavior is not healthy and prioritizes your needs AT THE EXPENSE of others.
What is one thing you have learned in this group:
If Ms. Shakira AND Ms. B accept the answer, you get the points ;)
What are the 5 different Anger Styles?
Masked anger
Explosive anger
Chronic anger
Passive aggressive anger
Assertive anger
What is something we can do when we make a mistake out of anger?
Take accountability/apologize
Self-reflect/learn from our mistakes
What is empathy?
Caring about another person and understanding what they are going through and how it could be affecting them.
What is an "I-statement?"
An I-statement is a tool we use to effectively resolve conflict by clearly stating our feelings, the issue, and how we want things to be different next time.
"I feel......when/because.....next time...."