The Value and Limits of Apology
What are the three types of apologies mentioned in this section?
a. Expedient apology, compelled apology, delayed apology
b. Prolonged apology, Forced apology, Expedient apology
c. Compelled apology, delayed apology, swift apologyd. This chapter did not cover apology
Hint: pg 317
a. Expedient apology, compelled apology, delayed apology
True or False: Accepting forgiveness is an admission that you are both the person who committed the offense and someone who knew it was wrong.
True, pg. 321
What is the process of repairing a relationship so that reengagement, trust, and cooperation become possible after a transgression or violation?
a. Forbearance
b. Forgiveness
c. Reconciliation
d. Bridging
c. Reconciliation Pg. 323
Which apology has this characteristic: arranged in private, merely benefits the one who offers the apology and provides little or no benefit for the person who was harmed?
a. delayed apology
b. compelled apology
c. expedient apology
d. uncontrolled apology
c. Expedient apology pg. 317
Related to forgiving oneself, how many images of ourselves do we have?
a. One
b. Forty Seven
c. Two
d. We don't have any images of our self
Two, pg. 321
What are the four strands of reconciliation?
Hint: pg 323
a. truth, forgiveness, empathy, commitment to the relationship out of Awareness of our interdependence
b. empathy, forbearance, compassion, commitment to the relationship out of Awareness of our interdependence
c. truth, forbearance, empathy, commitment to hate
d. truth, forbearance, empathy, commitment to the relationship out of Awareness of our interdependence
d. truth, forbearance, empathy, commitment to the relationship out of Awareness of our interdependence
Which apology has this characteristic: may be empty because it is offered without an adequate understanding of the full effect of one's actions?
a. Delayed apology
b. Compelled apology
c. Manipulative apology
d. Expedient apology
b. Compelled apology pg. 317
What are the two images we have of our self?
Hint: pg 321
a. reflection and deflection
b. past self and present self
c. The atoned and the sinner
d. The person we think we are and the person who caused someone harm
The person we think we are and the person who caused someone harm
True or false: Forbearance is essential to the forgiveness process and to the reconciliation process
True, pg. 325
True or false: It is possible for an apology to be completely purified of some kind of self-interest.
False, pg. 318
True or false: It is easy to accept forgiveness.
False, pg. 320
What is the realization that at some point we may have done the very same thing we are now trying to transcend?
Hint: pg 326
a. Compassion
b. Relatedness
c. Empathy
d. Emotional Intelligence
c. Empathy
A sincere and complete apology influences the decision to forgive what percentage of the time?
Hint: pg 316
a. 15%
b. 70%
c. 50%
d. 76%
d. 76%
****DAILY DOUBLE****
What is one reason that self-forgiveness can be hard to receive?
a. The person must admit that they made a mistake with beforehand knowledge that what they were doing was wrong
b. The person must now deflect any wrongdoing
c. The person must reconcile with three “selves”
d. Because there is no room for further mistakes in any area
a. The person must admit that they made a mistake with beforehand knowledge that what they were doing was wrong
True or False: Nothing obstructs the effort to repair a relationship as much as the experience of having your own sense of truth denied.
False, pg. 323