Personal Values
These are the beliefs that guide your actions and decisions.
What are personal values?
This is how much you value and respect yourself.
What is self-esteem?
This trap assumes that if you feel something, it must be true.
What is emotional reasoning?
“I had to steal to survive” is this type of rationalization.
What is denial of responsibility?
These four emotions often lead to negative or harmful behavior.
What are hurt, shame, fear, and anger?
Values can come from parents, friends, teachers, or these life events.
What are difficult or influential experiences (e.g., trauma, discrimination, work, parenting)?
This is your belief in your ability to accomplish tasks.
What is self-efficacy?
“Nothing ever works out for me” is an example of this trap.
What is overgeneralization?
“They won’t miss the money” is this.
What is denial of injury?
The “fight, flight, or freeze” response is triggered by this emotion.
What is fear?
This value means being truthful and not deceiving others.
What is honesty?
People with high self-efficacy view challenges as these.
What are tasks to be mastered?
“He didn’t say hello, so he must hate me.”
What is jumping to conclusions?
“She shouldn’t have left her purse on the table.”
What is denial of the victim?
Feeling worthless is a sign of this emotion.
What is shame?
Values can do this over time as you grow and learn.
What is change?
Having low self-esteem often comes from criticism or this kind of early experience.
What is trauma?
“Everyone needs to change for me to be happy.”
What is expecting others to change for your happiness?
Comparing your wrongdoing to someone who did something worse.
What is selective social comparison?
Emotional pain is processed in the brain the same way as this.
What is physical pain?
Living in a way that honors your values helps build this important part of self-respect.
What is integrity?
Low self-efficacy causes people to avoid these types of tasks.
What are challenging or difficult tasks?
This trap sees situations in extremes—either perfect or terrible.
What is black-or-white thinking?
Doing something illegal for your gang or loved ones.
What is appealing to higher loyalties?
People who were hurt emotionally may respond with this instead of sadness.
What is anger (or hypervigilance leading to attacking first)?