communication
What is communication?
Communicating in a way that takes into account both yourself and the other person.
What does it mean to be dysregulated? What do we do when we're feeling this way?
We're starting to feel out of control emotionally, like it's hard to do what we need to do, solve problems that come up. We can use our coping skills when we start to feel this way.
These coping manners are unhealthy and possibly damaging
negative coping skills
Has few close relationships and is very protective of personal information. This boundary is where someone says "no" to everything and allows no one in.
Rigid Boundary
Who can you call if you are having a bad day?
Call Friends and family
What is one downside to using passive communication?
You ignore your own needs, preferences, or opinions.
hat are some things you might feel if you're out of your window of tolerance and hypoactivated?
Numb, zoned out, sad, exhausted. Might want to shut down, freeze
Coping Strategy
Skills that help the person with psychological stress.
Overly trusting of others, even strangers.
Limited boundaries
Who has 100% confidentiality on GK that I can talk to?
Chaplain
When someone asserts their needs in a defensive, hostile, or demanding way, they are utilizing ____________ communication.
Aggressive
What are some things you might feel if you're outside your window of tolerance and hyperactivated?
Angry, anxious, out of control. Might want to run away or fight
This coping skill requires us to release tension in a physically and healthy manner
Exercise or sports
The ability to say "no" to people.
What are healthy boundaries
What MFLC stands for?
Military and Family Life Counselor
Name a hurdle of Assertive Communication you have experienced. How did you overcome that hurdle or if you didn't how would you overcome that hurdle?
Look at you soaring over that hurdle!
What can we do to expand our window of tolerance?
Practice mindfulness, use our coping skills, ask for help.
This coping skill requires you to write something you won’t send
Writing a letter to someone who is stressing or making you angry
This person refuses to tell anyone "No!" or has a difficult time saying "no"
What is limited boundaries.
I am struggling with my mental health and may need more help. Who can I call?
Call MFLC or Mental Health Clinic
You and a peer (peer gets points too) roleplay the following scenario:
You had a rough day and are looking forward to using the iPad with the headphones to listen to your favorite artist dropping their new album. Your peer signed up to use the Headphones first and asks "Does anyone else want to use the headphones?" Role-play this scenario with the partner using assertive communication to ask for a turn with the headphones.
That role-play was like Music to my ears!
What do we mean when we say our "window of tolerance"? How do we feel when we're in this window?
This is the mental place where we can often function our best, solve problems. This is when we feel good, calm, alert, and in control.
This coping skill requires us to write down triggers, thoughts and reactions.
Journaling
Does not compromise values for other people, but values others' opinions.
What is healthy boundaries
I being feeling very sad and disconnected. What can I do?
Call all your support systems.
Friends and Family; MFLC; Chaplain; Mental health
They will be there for you!