Better Choice
Jimmy doesn't like the lunch choice so he sits in the corner and skips lunch.
Find something you do like; Try it again
You tell your mom she looks nice.
Mom will feel good; you will feel good
You rip up your assignment.
You still have to do it, but you probably now lose some free time or fun stuff.
Julia likes her friend's pen so much that she takes it when her friend isn't looking.
Ask to borrow it; get one of your own
You complete an assignment even though it was hard for you.
You feel proud of yourself; the assignment is done; you learn something
You say something unkind to someone else.
They feel bad; you feel bad; you have trouble making friends; it doesn't solve the problem
James doesn't understand how to complete a math problem so he chooses to stop doing his assignment altogether.
Ask for help; skip it and come back to it but finish the rest of the assignment
You ask for help.
You figure out a solution to your problem; you build trust with someone else; you feel less frustration
You eat all of your Halloween candy in one sitting.
You feel sick; cavities; no candy for later
Jacqueline is angry so she calls her friend a disrespectful name.
Walk away and come back ready to talk calmly; tell your friend how you feel; take a deep breath; any coping skill
You clean your room.
You can find your stuff; all of it stays nice; you have room to do things; you help out your household
You invade someone's personal space without their permission.
They will feel uncomfortable; you will have trouble making a friend; you could get hurt
Joaquin throws his chromebook because he doesn't want to stop playing his games.
Take a break; use a coping skill; make a plan to play games later
You tell someone how you are honestly feeling and talk it out with them.
You build trust with someone; you might work it out; you no longer are holding on to it; you feel better
You don't like a direction, so you run into the hallway - away from the teacher.
You can't avoid the direction anyway; it's not safe; your teacher will be worried