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Your mom gets a new job and you have to move to a new state.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is where mom's new job is located/having to move
You forgot to study for a test and you received a bad grade.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is studying for the test, your emotions, your attitude, and response.
Even though you've told them to stop, your friends keep bashing each other online.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your friends actions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B332ZpkoojI
What was anger able to control in this situation? What was he not able to control?
Anger could control how he reacted to disgust calling him names, but he could not control whether or not she said those things, just how he responded to those words.
Name a coping skill that calms you
breathing, listening to music, etc.
Your family is going on a vacation this summer and wants you to go with. You will greatly miss your friends and you really want to stay at home with your grandparents.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your family's emotions/feelings
You study hard for a test and you don't pass. When you get the results back you feel like crying in class.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is your emotions (upset, crying) and attitude.
One of your friends has recently started cheating on spelling tests. You've asked them to stop, but they still do it.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is my friend's choice to cheat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xV5j8VXH8j8
What did Joy learn about always trying to be in control of everyone else in this scene?
That we can not control others and we can not control how they help and affect others. We need to let go of the idea that we have to control everyone.
Who are people you can talk to at school if you are having a difficult time with something outside of your control?
Teacher, counselor, friends
It's a rainy day and your first game of the season gets cancelled!
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is the weather, or the game being cancelled
You don't really get along with your RTI teacher.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your RTI teacher.
Your friend borrows your iPad without asking and accidentally drops it.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is your response, emotions, attitude, what you say to your friend, and actions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AiX-WvMNDPc
What did Elsa learn about control and what she should do to control herself?
Elsa learned that she needed to let go of what others thought about her and how they responded to her powers if she wanted to be happy. She realized she could only control herself and her own reactions and fear to their reactions.
Who are people you can talk to at home if you are having a difficult time with something outside of your control?
Parents, sibling, call another family member or friend
Your dog chewed up your brand new pair of shoes and you are really mad!
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is where you put your shoes, your emotions (anger), your thoughts, your dog, your attitude, and your actions.
You call your teacher mom and the rest of the class laughs at you. You feel embarrassed.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is your emotions, your actions/choices, your attitude, and what you say to your peers.
Two of your friends hang out without you and it hurts your feelings.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your friends' choice to hang out just the two of them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQbj4svKKDQ
What did Mei learn to help her stay calm and keep control of her emotions here?
She learned to use calming exercises and interventions like breathing to help control her intense emotions so she wouldn't change into a panda.
This is a coping skill that includes writing down how you feel in a private book
journaling
Your big brother/sister had a really bad day and they aren't being very kind to you.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is your attitude, actions, the way you treat her, the choices you make, and things you say to her.
A group of your classmates are planning on egging your teacher's house.
What CAN you control about this situation?
What is the choices you make, your actions, what you say to your peers, your effort, and your attitude.
Your best friend moves over an hour away from you.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your friend moving away.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9G0FfFh90_I
In this scene there are alot of things Miguel can not control can you name two of them?
This is NOT a healthy coping skill NOR is it age appropriate
Throwing things, hitting, whining, screaming, throwing a tantrum.