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Your mom gets a new job and you have to move to a new state.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
Where mom's new job is located/having to move
You forgot to study for a test and you received a bad grade.
What CAN you control about this situation?
Studying for the test, your emotions, your attitude, and response.
Even though you've told them to stop, your friends keep being mean to each other online.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
Your friends actions.
Name a coping skill that calms you
breathing, listening to music, etc.
It's a rainy day and your first game of the season gets cancelled!
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
The weather or the game being cancelled
You don't really get along with your teacher.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your teacher.
Your friend borrows your iPad without asking and accidentally drop it.
What CAN you control about this situation?
Your actions and apologizing
Who are people you can talk to at home if you are having a difficult time with something outside of your control?
Parents, sibling, call another family member or friend
Your dog chewed up your brand new pair of shoes and you are really mad!
What CAN you control about this situation?
Where you put your shoes, your emotions (anger), your thoughts, your dog, your attitude, and your actions.
You call your teacher mom and the rest of the class laughs at you. You feel embarrassed.
What CAN you control about this situation?
Your emotions, your actions/choices, your attitude, and what you say to your peers.
Two of your friends hang out without you and it hurts your feelings.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
Your friends' choice to hang out just the two of them.
This is a coping skill that includes writing down how you feel in a private book
journaling
Your big brother/sister had a really bad day and they aren't being very kind to you.
What CAN you control about this situation?
Your attitude, actions, the way you treat her, the choices you make, and things you say to her.
A group of your classmates are planning on egging your teacher's house.
What CAN you control about this situation?
The choices you make, your actions, what you say to your peers, your effort, and your attitude.
Your best friend moves over an hour away from you.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
What is your friend moving away.
This is NOT a healthy coping skill
Yelling, hitting, throwing objects
Your family is going on a vacation this summer and wants you to go with. You will greatly miss your friends and you really want to stay at home with your grandparents.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
Your family's emotions/feelings
You study hard for a test and you don't pass. When you get the results back you feel like crying in class.
What CAN you control about this situation?
Using a coping skill and/or asking for help
One of your friends has recently started cheating on spelling tests. You've asked them to stop, but they still do it.
What CAN'T you control about this situation?
My friend's choice to cheat.
Who are people you can talk to at school if you are having a difficult time with something outside of your control?
Teacher, counselor, friends