Attachment Styles
People that have a positive view of self and others, as well as comfort and confidence in emotional and relational closeness with others are said to have this type of attachment.
Secure
Children who have a secure attachment to at least ____ adult perform better in school, have better physical health and have more fulfilling relationships throughout life.
One
Children have two groups of needs. They are need for _______________ and need for _________________.
Comfort and Safety; Exploration
The ability for a parent to properly respond to their child’s cues and to provide consistent and safe presence and co-regulation is called _______________.
Attunement
If a child's need is unmet or the parent responds to child's need in a way that feels unsafe to the child, a _______ has occurred.
Rupture
People that have a positive view of others but a low sense of self and fear abandonment in relationships usually have this style of attachment.
Anxious or Anxious-Ambivalent
Parents who have insecure attachments can still respond sensitively to their children's needs most of the time. The goal isn't perfect parenting, it's ____ __________ parenting.
Good Enough
Parents are to "be the hands" along the circle. The hands that support the child's need for "going out" to explore are called ___________________.
Secure Base
A parent’s ability, capacity, and skill to maintain emotional and physical closeness to their child in times of big emotions is called __________________.
Being With
A parent that reacts negatively or yells at their child's need has caused a rupture. The parent's willingness to acknowledge and apologize for their behavior (without placing blame on the child's actions,) as well as offer meaningful connection to the child is an example of _________.
Repair
People that often have a negative view of self and others and are emotionally distant and fearful of making meaningful connections with others usually have this type of attachment.
Disorganized
Complete this "equation."
___________ + _____________ = secure attachment
Autonomy, Connection
Parents are to "be the hands" along the circle. The hands that support the child's need to "come in" for comfort and safety when they are distressed are called ___________________.
Safe Haven
"I know that my being here with you for each of your needs and in each of your feelings (no matter which one) matters most" is an example of what?
Emotional Availability
The primary goal of COS-based attachment interventions is to encourage the parent to ALWAYS BE....... (Hint: 4 words.)
Bigger, Stronger, Wiser & Kind
People with this attachment style often avoid conflicts by isolating. They have a high view of self and low view of others.
Avoidant
Name 2 benefits of secure attachment for children.
Answers will vary. (Slide 7)
Children "come in" to their parents for comfort when they are frustrated, tired, hungry or when their emotional cup is empty. What are two examples of ways to "fill" your child's emotional cup?
Answers will vary. (Slide 18)
Our children’s emotions and behavior trigger strong emotions in us, based on our past experiences, which can make it more difficult to respond sensitively to their big emotions. This is called our ______________.
Shark Music
WHENEVER POSSIBLE: __(Hint: 4 words)___________
Watch for your child's cues. These are direct or indirect signals from the child for a specific need to be met.
Follow your child's need
Many people with disorganized attachment have experienced ____________ and/or inconsistent caregiving in their early childhood years.
Trauma / adverse childhood experiences
Secure attachment to parent involves three things: (1) parent provides feeling of safety when child is frightened or distressed (2) parent helps child feel secure enough to explore their world... What is the third thing?
(3) Parent helps child accept and manage their own emotions.
Children "come in" to their parents for comfort when they are frustrated, tired, hungry or when their emotional cup is empty. What are three situations that might empty your child's emotional cup?
Answers will vary. (Slide 18)
The instinct to seek proximity to a specific person, usually a parent, who will comfort, protect, and/or help organize the child's feelings is called _____________.
Care-seeking
WHENEVER NECESSARY: __________________
(Hint: 2 words)
Ultimately, you are the one responsible for keeping your child safe.
Take Charge