Types of Relationships
Your partner uses a name or pronoun that you don’t like, but stops using it once you correct them or ask them not to. Healthy, Unhealthy, or Abusive?
If you answered healthy, you'd be correct! Even in healthy relationships, we can mess up and do something upsetting. In a healthy relationship, you should feel comfortable telling your partner when something upsets you, and they should take it seriously and work with you to ensure your safety and happiness.
This is the difference between snitching and reporting.
Snitching is telling on someone to get them in trouble.
Reporting is telling a trusted adult to get help for yourself or someone else; focus is on keeping yourself or someone else is safe.
In Chinese, the word for "conflict" is the combination of these two words.
Danger and opportunity.
______ is NOT an example of active listening.
Interrupting, not responding/showing understanding, making a negative comment, not making eye contact.
If you have a disagreement, your partner uses the silent treatment and won’t talk to you for days. Healthy, Unhealthy, or Abusive?
The correct answer is unhealthy. The silent treatment only leaves room for more confusion. There will be days that you and your partner disagree on some things, and it is important that you keep your communication strong.
Healthy relationships should have these things (name 3).
Mutual respect, Friendship, Love, Trust, Consent, Support, Fun, Safety, Communication, Compromise, Boundaries, and Respect for each other’s privacy.
True or False: Conflict is a normal, natural, and necessary part of life.
True. All relationships/friendships encounter conflict at some point
Change this to an Affective Statement: “You always interrupt me when I am trying to talk.”
“I feel hurt when I am interrupted because I don’t feel like I am able to share my ideas. Please wait until I am done.”
Your partner controls your social media accounts. Healthy, Unhealthy, or Abusive?
So that's abusive behavior. When you join a social network, it doesn't ask for the name of two people -- it just asks for one. So remember that, and know what you say and do on your profile should be your business. Your partner shouldn't have a say so on who you follow, what you post, or who can DM you.
Unhealthy relationships may include these things (name 3).
Isolation, Extreme jealousy, Possessiveness, Fights, Secrets, Emotional harm, Dishonesty, Bullying, Harassment, and Peer pressure.
Disagreement about beliefs, ideas, or interests.
Conflict.
Change this to an Affective Statement: “You and the rest of the group always leave me out.”
“I feel lonely when I am left out of the group because I enjoy hanging out with you. Please include me in the plans next time.”
You and your partner feel like you can share things with each other, but you also feel like you can keep some things private. Healthy, Unhealthy, or Abusive?
That's healthy! You and your partner should have enough respect for one another where you two understand what information should be shared -- such as hobbies and mutual interests -- and what should not be shared -- like account/password information for Instagram.
These four things are what turns teasing into bullying.
If it is intentional, if it is harmful, if it is repeated over time, if it involves a power differential (strength, access to information, popularity, etc.).
Two people come to an agreement by each offering to meet somewhere in the middle
Compromise.
These are the four steps involved in healthy communication.
Think about the message you need to communicate and who you need to communicate to
Notice your body language and tone of voice
Deliver the message
Listen to the response
Your partner says you don’t really love them because you want to go to a movie with a friend, instead of spending time alone with them. Healthy, Unhealthy, or Abusive?
The right answer is unhealthy. It is not okay if your partner makes you feel bad or guilty for wanting to hang out with a friend instead of them. In a healthy relationship, your partner respects and trusts you when you are out with your friends and doesn’t make you feel like you constantly have to prove your love.
These are the three communication styles.
Communication strategy that is very effective at addressing and resolving a miscommunication and/or conflict; a healthy way of communicating to another person how their behavior has impacted you, either positively or negatively.
Affective Statements.
These are the four steps involved in active listening.
Look at the person who is talking
Do not interrupt
Think about what is being said
Show understanding or ask a question