Codependency
Define Codependency
An unhealthy relationship dynamic where one person is emotionally dependent on someone else and has trouble meeting/communicating their own needs
Your partner/friend encourages you to pursue your dreams. What type of relationship is this?
What are characteristics of a healthy relationship? (Name at least three in the answer to receive points)
Honesty, commitment, mutual respect, trust, compromise, effective communication
Double Jeopardy!
What are some early warning signs of an unhealthy relationship?
Isolation, Put-Downs, Dishonesty, and Ineffective Communication Skills
What is the FAST skill?
Be Fair
No Apologies
Stick to your values
Be Truthful
Codependency is a response to what ..
Past experiences, trauma, and attachment issues
Your partner/friend makes jokes about you that make you feel uncomfortable, even though you have told them that this bothers you.
Unhealthy relationship
A relationship based on equality and respect use of fairness and negotiation, open communication is an example of what?
Healthy relationship
You can tell when your in an unhealthy relationship, especially early on
False
Why are DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills great for relationships?
Because they help you stay mindful of yourself and others which improves the relationship.
feels overly responsible, has trouble setting boundaries, focus's more on others instead of themselves, can't say no without feeling guilty, thinks it's their job to save other people, and struggles with low self-esteem.
True or False: You’re never responsible for someone else’s behavior.
True
Family members can help relationships by demonstrating
Respect and honesty, consideration, commitment
Characteristics of Unhealthy relationship? Name at least three
Dependency, Jealousy, Control, selfishness, abuse
What is the GIVE skill?
Be Gentle
Act Interested
Validate
Use an Easy Manner
Codependency is an unhealthy focus on what?
The other person's problems, feelings, and needs.
True or False: We should try to help someone even though they haven't asked for our help.
False
What are boundaries and why are they important for your relationship in order to be healthy?
Boundaries are the limits we set in a relationship to determine what is acceptable and what's not. You need boundaries to prevent codependency and help maintain self-respect
List 3 reasons someone would stay in an unhealthy/codependent relationship:
What is the THINK skill?
Think about it from a new perspective
Have empathy
Interpretations
Notice
Use Kindness
There is often two major things that a person lacks which causes codependency. What are these two things?
Lack of boundaries
Lack of self-love
Name all five love languages
Acts of Service
Gift Giving
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Physical Touch
_______ is a problem solving method that involves each participant giving up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone
compromise
A _________ relationship is one that we should leave because it is detrimental to our safety and well-being. A ___________ is one that might be getting in the way, but can possibly be repaired with communication and problem solving.
What is the DEARMAN skill and why do we use it?
We use it to help with asking for things more effectively and saying no effectively.
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce (Reward), Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate (Accept No)