CODEPENDENCY PATTERNS
The four common codependency patterns.
What are Low self-esteem, denial, compliance, and control patterns.
A focus on other people’s problems, feelings, needs, and wants while minimizing or ignoring your own.
Codependence
Professional resources for tackling codependency.
What are Counseling and therapy.
These make clear what you are willing to accept or participate in and what you are not.
What is Boundaries
Two key values to keep in mind when first starting to set boundaries with your loved ones.
What is Practice & Patience.
This pattern is characterized by the minimization, distortion and denial of one’s own family.
What is a Denial Pattern
Codependency can occur in ____________
Any Relationship
Michelle expressed her political beliefs on Facebook and got some backlash. She is now nervous about what people think and deleted her post.
What is Low Self-Esteem Patterns
in this time period it is essential to practice setting and enforcing boundaries in order to protect your recovery.
What is Early Recovery
These may lead to oversharing and the receiving of abuse and disrespect.
What are Porous Boundaries?
People with porous boundaries are too involved and enmeshed with others. They often are highly dependent on other people and struggle with feelings of anxiety, burnout and the need to please others. They are likely to: Struggle to say no to other people's requests or demands.
This pattern is characterized by one perceiving themselves as unlovable and not worthwhile.
What is Low Self-Esteem
Another non-clinical terms for Codependency is ________ ________
Relationship Addiction
The first step to addressing codependency.
What is Identifying Patterns.
Setting boundaries can prevent _________, commonly known as the number one offender for relapse.
Resentment.
Poor boundaries & communication skills inhibit expressing their needs and feeling, or do so ineffectively. Hence, They can't protect themselves or get what they want and need and feel angry and resentful, because they: Expect other people to make us happy, and they don't. Agree to things we don't want to.
These may lead to having few close relationships, appearing detached, and a lack of intimacy in relationships.
What are Rigid Boundaries
This pattern is characterized by compromising their own values and integrity to avoid rejection or other people’s anger.
What is Compliance
Double Jeopardy
Codependency is considered an _______ and ________ condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship.
Emotional and Behavioral
Blind Date Robert: Where would you like to eat?
Sherrie: It doesn't matter. Whatever you like is fine.
What is Compliance Patterns
Triple Jeopardy
This exercise is a great way to start to understand what areas of your life need boundaries.
Personal Bill of Rights
I have the right to make my own decisions. I have the right to determine my reality (feelings, thoughts, and beliefs). I have the right to feel safe in relationships and in my life. I have the right to have and honor my needs in relationships.
When setting boundaries, consider your word choice, tone of voice, and _________.
What is Body Language
This pattern is characterized by one believing it is their responsibility to help and rescue other people.
What is Control Pattern
While problematic in adulthood, codependency traits were often a form of survival in ____________
Childhood
Double Jeopardy
A great way to counteract years of putting others first is...
What is to Identifying Your/My Own Needs
A simple and effective way to begin setting boundaries.
What is saying No.
Remember that No is a complete answer/sentence.
Using these are a respectful and responsible way to set boundaries without placing blame.
Using "I" Statements.
“I feel frustrated and constrained when you plan out my day.” This is less accusatory than saying something like, “You always try to control me.”