Codependency Basics
True or False: Codependency means caring too much.
False- It's about losing yourself while caring for others
True or False: Boundaries are a way to keep people out.
False – they help keep relationships healthy
True or False: Helping and enabling mean the same thing.
False
True or False: My value depends on helping others.
False
True or False: A healthy relationship has balance and respect.
True
What is codependency?
Putting others’ needs before your own and basing your worth on being needed
What’s one example of a boundary?
Saying “no,” limiting contact, asking for space, etc.
What does it mean to “enable” someone?
To protect them from the consequences of their actions
Name one way you can build your self-worth.
Self-care, affirmations, keeping promises to yourself, etc.
Name one quality of a healthy relationship.
Trust, honesty, communication, respect, balance, etc.
What kind of relationships can codependency show up in?
Any – romantic, family, or friendships
What might you feel when you first start setting boundaries?
Guilt, fear, or discomfort – but that’s normal
Example: You give your friend money knowing she might use. Helping or enabling?
Enabling
Why is self-worth important in recovery?
It helps you make healthy choices and avoid toxic relationships
What’s one red flag of codependency?
Control, guilt, lack of independence, fear of abandonment
What emotion often drives codependent behavior?
Fear – especially fear of being alone or rejected
Why are boundaries important in recovery?
They protect your peace and prevent relapse triggers
Example: You offer to drive a friend to a meeting but don’t take responsibility for her attendance. Helping or enabling?
Helping
Fill in the blank: “I am enough even when ______.”
“I’m not fixing or helping anyone”
What can you do when someone crosses your boundary?
Communicate clearly or step back if needed
How can codependency affect your recovery?
How can codependency affect your recovery?
Fill in the blank: “Boundaries are not about controlling others, they’re about protecting my ______.”
Peace / Recovery / Well-being
How can enabling hurt both people?
It keeps one stuck in unhealthy behavior and drains the other emotionally
What’s one thing you like or appreciate about yourself?
Open-ended – accept any positive response
What’s one healthy relationship goal you have for yourself?
Open-ended – allow self-reflection