Name the Pattern
Values others approval of their thinking, feelings, and behavior over their own.
Low Self-esteem patterns
Husband: You seem mad about me going out with the guys last night. Are you okay?
Wife: (Visibly upset) I'm fine.
Denial Patterns
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step 4
The number of minutes you are allowed on the phone at a time
15
Think they can take care of themselves without any help from others.
Denial Patterns.
Mom to daughter: I really wouldn't wear your hair like that to school. Kids are probably going to make fun of you. It looks much better down.
Daughter: I like my hair like this. I don't care what other kids think.
Mom: Ok, well don't say I didn't warn you.
Control Patterns
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
In the bedrooms.
Pull people towards them, but when others get close, push them away.
Avoidance Patterns
Blind Date Mike: Where would you like to eat?
Tara: It doesn't matter. Whatever you like is fine.
Compliance Patterns
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol/drugs-that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 1
Bedding needs to be washed this many times a week.
Once.
Believe people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
Control Patterns
Friend: You look like you're going to cry.
Sydney: No, I'm good. I hardly ever cry over anything.
Avoidance/
Will also accept Denial
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Step 12
Showers are to be taken at these times.
In the morning when you wake up or before bed.
Are extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations for too long.
Compliance Patterns
Michelle expressed her political beliefs on Facebook and got some backlash. She is now nervous about what people think and deleted her post.
Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Step 2
If you go to a meeting, you are permitted to exchange food and candy with people from other facilities.
True or False
False