Give an Example Of...
Mind Reading
Somebody tells you no, and you assume they think that you are a burden
You want help from a co-worker but you assume they will say no, so you don't even ask
"I'm just crazy"
I'm struggling right now and I feel out of control
I'm having a hard time controlling my emotions or worry over this situation...
Using words like "always" and "never" to describe situations or events
Black-and-white or all-or-nothing thinking
Somebody tells you that you look nice and you think "they are just staying that because they feel bad for me."
Discounting positives/mental filter
Why are should statements so detrimental for us
They imply that life or situations "should" look a certain way, so there is something wrong with the way things actually look. Should statements discount the experiences of you and of others and don't account for all the factors.
Catastrophizing
If I fail this test I will not pass school and I'll never have a good job or be successful in life
If my partner leaves me I will be alone and lonely forever
In sobriety you think, "this shouldn't be so hard for me."
I have been struggling for a long time. It is possible that my recovery will just take a little longer or be a little harder than I anticipated.
You exaggerate the importance of your problems and shortcomings
Magnification
"They talk to her more than they talk to me so they must like her better."
Mind Reading
What is the difference between magnification and minimization
In Magnification, you magnify the things that didn't go well and in Minimization you dismiss or write off your successes.
Labeling
You forget a doctor's appointment and tell yourself, "I'm so irresponsible"
You fail to see that somebody was using you for something, you tell yourself "I'm a fool."
I'm worried I will mess this up, but if I don't try my hardest, I will never know
Telling yourself you should be over these problems by now or others should act a certain way
Should Statements
You receive a note from your child's teacher that he didn't complete his assignment and you interpret that as proof that you are a bad parent.
Personalization or Discounting the Positives
True or False: to combat a distortion, you should just think the opposite thought
False
All-or-nothing thinking
You were late to work and you tell yourself, "this whole day is runied."
If your partner forgets your anniversary, you assume they don't love you
I always make mistakes
I made a mistake this one time and I can try to do better going forward
You see negative events as indicating some negative aspect of yourself and hold yourself personally responsible for an event that isn't entirely in your control.
Personalization
"I have relapsed/not been able to maintain sobriety in the past, this time won't work either."
Overgeneralization
Define Catastrophizing
Fortune Telling
Predicting "I will never feel better"
You get invited to a wedding and you assume, "this will be so awkward and I will feel exhausted and want to leave the entire time."
"I'm going to make a fool of myself and everyone will laugh at me."
I will do my best to remember that people are always as harsh as I assume they will be.
Assuming that our negative emotions reflect the way things really are
"I feel guilty so I must have done something wrong."
Emotional Reasoning
Mind Reading and Catastrophizing are examples of what?
Jumping to Conclusions