We have to be perfect or we're a failure - there is no middle ground or shades of grey.
What is Polarized, Black and White, or All or Nothing Thinking?
This is when we apply simplistic and unfair definitions that are probably wrong or more likely incomplete on ourselves and others.
What is Labeling
"If I can't pass this test, I'm giving up on studying science in the future."
What is All-or-Nothing Thinking OR What is Overgeneralization
What is Fallacy of Fairness?
This is when we see a single negative event as a part of a never-ending streak of failure. We use words like "always," "never," "everybody".
What is Overgeneralization?
This is when we anticipate that things will turn out badly and act as if they already turned out that way.
What is Catastrophizing?
"She did not say anything about my new haircut. She must think it is ugly!"
What is Jumping to Conclusions?
What is Labeling Ourselves?
If someone gives you a compliment or if someone says something positive about you, you dismiss it as not being true.
What is Disqualifying the Positive?
This is when we see ourselves as the cause of negative events that we are not responsible for.
What is Personalization?
"She didn't sit with me at lunch, so she must be annoyed with me."
What is personalization?
What is blaming?
We take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all the positive aspects of a situation.
What is Filtering and Magnetizing?
This is when we hold another person responsible for every problem we have or we blame ourselves.
What is Blaming?
"I know she complimented me on my new outfit but she was just being nice."
What is Disqualifying the Positive?
I know my friend is lying to me, because I feel like they are hiding something from me.
What is emotional reasoning?
I know I am going to have anxiety when I go to the dance, so I should just plan on not going now.
"I can practice my coping skills if I start to feel anxious and I can leave the dance if I need to, but I should at least give it a try."
You decide something is true, or make a judgement about something before having enough information to be sure you're right.
What is Jumping to Conclusions?
We form strict rules and expectations.
What is Should's?
"I missed a week of school, which means I may not get in all of my assignments, and I'll fail all my tests coming up, and then never make it to high school."
What is Catastrophizing?
What is Self-Comparison?