This is when we see things in black and white categories. There is no grey area.
What is All-or-Nothing Thinking
She broke up with me last night. Now I'll never meet anyone.
What is All-or-Nothing Thinking OR What is Overgeneralization
"I really should fold the laundry and not let it sit in my basket"
Should statements
This is when we see a single negative event as a part of a never-ending streak of failure.
What is Overgeneralization
She did not say anything about my new haircut. She must think it is ugly!
What is Mind Reading
"I forgot to pack my kids lunch. I'm such a terrible parent. They're going to need therapy when they're older."
Catastrophizing
This happens when we blow a negative event out of proportion.
What is Magnification or Catastrophizing
She is moving to a new apartment because she does not like having me as a neighbor.
What is personalization
"I am a failure"
Emotional Reasoning
This is when we conclude that someone is acting negatively towards us without checking it out or seeking other evidence.
What is Mind Reading
I know she complimented me on my new outfit but she was just being nice.
What is Disqualifying the Positive OR What is Minimization
"My boss mentioned I need to be on time more often. He's always finding the negatives. I am on time plenty of times. He just doesn't notice. He the one that needs to be on time more. I can't believe he's focused on how on time I am."
Mental Filter
This is when we pick out one negative detail in a situation and dwell on it exclusively.
What is Mental Filter
You assume that your emotions reflect reality and draw conclusions from how you feel
Emotional Reasoning
I am mentally ill and cannot contribute anything to anyone.
What is Labeling. Reframe! I am living with a mental illness and I have a lot to offer to this world! Mental illness does not define who I am as a person!
"My mental illness is killing my mother."
Personalization