Communication Styles
Characteristics: Direct, honest, respectful, and open communication. They express their own needs and opinions clearly, while also considering others’ rights and feelings.
What is Assertive Communication?
Hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.
What is Optimism?
The capacity to gain an accurate and deep intuitive understanding of a person or thing.
What is Insight?
Feeling like a failure and therefore believing you truly are one, despite evidence of your hard work and persistence.
What is Emotional Reasoning?
Labeling yourself as "a loser" because you did not accomplish a goal. Or mislabeling other as “a jerk” because they disagreed with you.
What is Labeling?
Characteristics: Avoids expressing personal opinions or feelings, protecting rights, and identifying and meeting needs. They often seem apathetic or indifferent.
What is Passive Communication?
A process that involves identifying, challenging, and changing negative beliefs and thought patterns.
What is Cognitive Restructuring?
The lines and limits you create between yourself and other people. They allow you to define what is acceptable and healthy for you in your relationships.
What is Boundaries?
Blowing the significance of a slip-up out of proportion, thinking it's a catastrophic setback, or minimizing the importance of your accomplishments, like attending group regularly.
What is Magnification?
After a relapse, concluding, "I always mess up. I'll never be able to recover." This treats a single event as an endless pattern of defeat.
What is Overgeneralization?
Characteristics: They not only avoid expressing their thoughts and feelings but also tend to put others’ needs and preferences above their own.
What is Submissive Communication?
Having gone through recovery, John has gained a deep understanding of himself, his triggers, and his needs, which can help in forming authentic connections.
What is Self-awareness?
Characterized by excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.
What is Codependence?
Thinking, "If I don’t get a job at my first interview, I'm a total failure." This ignores the fact that you are not in control of the interviewer and there are other jobs out there that might work out better.
What is All or Nothing Thinking?
Blaming yourself for friends or family's stress or problems, thinking it's all because of your past substance use, even when many factors are at play.
What is Personalization?
Characteristics: An indirect form of communication where the individual appears passive on the surface but is actually acting out anger in subtle, indirect, or behind-the-scenes ways.
What is Passive Aggressive Communication?
Fundamental convictions that we hold about ourselves, other, and the world, deeply ingrained through our experiences, especially during early life.
What is Core Beliefs?
Involuntary, automatic, and basic stress responses that the body uses to protect itself from danger and return to a calm state.
What is Fight Flight or Freeze?
Assuming people will think less of you if they find out about your addiction or believing you will be fired if your addiction is found out.
What is Mind Reading (Fortune Telling)?
Thoughts that define what a person thinks they or others ought to do. It is a set of expectations that might not take particular circumstances into consideration.
What is Should Statements?
Characteristics: Skilled at influencing or controlling others to their own advantage. This style often involves being cunning or scheming, using indirect tactics to get what they want.
What is Manipulative Communication?
John's journey to sobriety has shown his ability to overcome difficult situations, a quality that can inspire trust and admiration in potential new friends.
What is resilience?
The understanding that both partners' needs are important, plays a crucial role in addressing emotional triggers within relationships by fostering a culture of respect, empathy, and open communication.
What is Mutuality?
Focusing only on the times you've given into cravings and ignoring all the times you resisted. This paints an unfairly negative picture of your efforts.
What is Mental Filter?
Dismissing compliments or support from others in the group, thinking they "don't really mean it" or "they're just saying that to be nice." This robs you of the recognition of your achievements.
What is Disqualifying the Postitives?