Cognitive Distortions
The belief that things should be a certain way
Should Statement
Refusing to accept reality or facts to avoid emotional discomfort
Denial
We had one argument, so this relationship is not working.
All or Nothing thinking
Instead of lashing out during the argument, you decide to go for a run
Sublimation
Thinking in absolutes such as “always,” “never,” or “every.”
All or Nothing Thinking
Justifying behaviors or feelings with logical—but false—explanations
Rationalization
I should have accomplished more by this age
Should statement
You have been drinking heavily for 4 years, friends have expressed concerns, you reply, "I don't have a problem, I can stop anytime I want."
Denial
Interpreting the thoughts and beliefs of others without adequate evidence.
Mind Reading
The unconscious blocking of painful memories, thoughts, or impulses
Repression
My parents divorced, so there is no point in getting married.
Overgeneralization
Someone says that they are no longer interested in going on future dates, you say "It's ok I was not interested in you anyway"
Rationalization
Seeing only the worst possible outcomes of a situation
Catastrophizing
Redirecting emotions (often anger) from a threatening target to a safer one.
Displacement
Your partner is quieter than usual, so you believe they are mad at you.
Mind reading
You have been engaging in an extramarital affair and accuse your partner of cheating.
Projection
The belief that you are responsible for events outside of your control.
Personalization
Attributing one’s unacceptable feelings or traits to someone else.
Projection
Despite coughing uncontrollably for three weeks straight, I insist, "It’s only a tickle in my throat, I don't need a doctor."
Minimization
Your boss criticizes your work and while grabbing lunch you get verbally aggressive toward the barista for providing the wrong order.
Displacement