Lesson #1
Are our beliefs always true?
No
What are rigid boundaries?
Boundaries that we are too strict on.
What are values?
Things that are very important to you.
When we forgive ourself we must also...
Accept our consequences
True or False: Whoever yells the loudest won the argument.
False
What does it mean to live optimally?
To live up to one's highest potential.
What are porous boundaries?
Boundaries that are too lose and cause us to overshare.
What is a prosocial value? Give an example.
Values that move us towards healthy relationships.
When we feel targeted in an argument we often try to...
attack the other person
What is stonewalling?
Refusing to speak in an argument. Gives off the idea of "don't talk to me".
What is an attitude?
Our settled way of thinking. Determines our behaviors.
What is intimacy?
Being emotionally connected to others. Needed to form close bonds.
What is a antisocial value? Give an example.
A value that does not contribute or goes against healthy relationships.
What is magnifying?
Self talk where you overreact to a situation.
Our main goal when arguing should be to...
Compromise!
What is an example of a pro-social behavior?
-Helping
-Communicating
-Etc...
What is the first step in setting healthy bounadries?
Saying "no".
What are either or values? Give an example.
Values that can either help or harm social relationships depending on how it is used.
What is selective focus?
Only seeing the negatives and dwelling on them.
Before we start and argument we must...
Narrow down the real reason we are upset.
How are bad morals developed?
If our life stages are interrupted or interpreted incorrectly.
What are the 6 types of boundaries?
1. Physical
2. Intellectual
3. Emotional
4. Sexual
5. Material
6. Time
What did the poem "A Moral Compass" talk about?
-Do not use a single issue to evaluate one's character.
-People with a true moral compass learn from their mistakes.
-It matters how we treat those we disagree with.
Give me an example of an I statement.
"I feel ____"
What is the difference between a timeout and stonewalling.
After a time out you return to the problem.