I- Messages
What is the 1st part of an I message?
What is: Feeling?
List the 4 parts to a refusal strategy?
What is:
1. Look at the person and say No in a firm voice.
2. Give Reasons for saying no.
3. Match your behavior to your words.
4. Ask an adult for help if you need it.
Write an I-Message for this situation:
Your best friend did not show up for your birthday party. In an I message tell her/him how you feel.
What is: I feel really sad that you did not show up for my birthday party can you call and tell me next time why?
What is the second part of an I-Message?
What is: When I have that feeling?
What are 3 Examples of non verbal communication you can use when giving a refusal statement to someone.
What is:
1. Walk away
2. Shake head no
3. Give a thumbs up
Write an I-Message for this situation:
Your brother always hides your computer. In an I message tell him how you feel.
What is: I feel angry when you take my computer and hide it, please can you stop doing it.
What is the third part of an I message?”
What is: What would you like to happen?
Write a refusal statement.
What is: NO WAY!!! I do not want to break the law.
Write an I-Message for this situation:
Your friend keeps taking your bike and riding it all day and never lets you have a turn. In an I message tell her/him how you feel.
What is: I feel frustrated when you take my bike and never let me ride it, can we please take turns.
Write an example of an I message
What is: I feel sad when you don't include me in the group, can I please be with your group next time, it looks like fun?
List one of the 10 reasons to avoid risky behavior
What is: I want to follow the law
Write an I-Message for this situation:
Your sister is always calling you names. In an I message tell her how you feel.
What is: I feel upset when you call me those awful names, please stop or I am telling dad.