"I" Statements
This kind of statement is phrased "I feel ______ when ______ happens"
"I" Statement
"You are _____" is an example of....
a "you" statement
You feel ignored. Your friend or family member is ____
Multi-tasking
5-4-3-2-1 is a form of ____
What is Grounding or diverting
Not including time for homework, studies show teens are online for how many hours per day on average?
9 hours
Come up with an "I" Statement for the following situation:
You come home a few minutes late because you lost track of time with your friends. Mom start yelling at you about being late & not letting her know
Answers will vary, one example:
"I feel ____ when you yell at me."
"You" statements are the opposite of __________
"I" statements
These kinds of questions keep a conversation flowing
Open-ended questions
True or False: You can be addicted to social media.
True!
What is a boundary?
A limit. Sometimes refers to physical boundary, but can also refer to limits you set in social settings or your own comfort zone.
"I feel like you are a jerk."
What's wrong with this "I" Statement?
It is not expressing a feeling, it is expressing an opinion. Anytime "I feel" is followed by "like," it is not a true "I" Statement!
Fix the "you" statement:
"You always ruin things when you borrow them! Are you ever going to grow up??"
Answers will vary. One example:
"I feel upset when you damage things you borrow from me because I can't afford to replace them/I like to take care of my things."
If you don't know something, you should...
Say you don't know
Not paying attention be dangerous because . . .
Someone could get hurt/miss the correct answer . .
Any others?
What are some possible consequences about talking about someone behind their back?
Hurt feelings, damage reputation, doesn't make you look good, etc.
When should you use an "I" statment?
1) When we need to talk to friends/family about their behavior,
2) When we feel others are not treating us fairly,
3) When we feel defensive or angry,
4) When others are angry with us
You statements often make people feel...
defensive (upset, angry, blamed, etc.)
Person 1: "I had a horrible weekend."
Person 2: "I know exactly what you mean; I have horrible weekends all the time, just last weekend..."
What basic rule to have a better conversation is Person 2 not practicing?
Don't equate your experience with theirs.
List 3 potential benefits of not being on social media continually
Exploring outdoors, being more active; developing a hobby
Why might someone recovering from addiction need to learn about social skills?
Addiction affects relationships, help reduce/resolve conflict, keep self-respect, etc.
List 3 benefits of using "I" statements
1) Feelings won't be hurt
2)
List 3 situations where using a "you" statement would make the situation worse
Answers will vary, but examples include: talking to the police, arguing with parents, arguing with boyfriend/girlfriend
List 3 basic rules for improved communication
1) If you don't know, say you don't know;
2) Active listening listen;
3) Ask open-ended questions
List 3 potential risks of social media
Exposure to harmful or inappropriate content; exposure to dangerous people; cyberbullying; oversharing personal info; exposure to excessive advertisements; privacy concerns; interference with sleep, exercise, homework, or family activities
What are the skills that make up the acronym FAST? (hint: these skills help you maintain self-respect and set boundaries)
be Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, be Truthful