Starting a Phone Conversation
This is the first step when someone you call picks up the phone.
Ask for the person you are calling.
This is the first sign the conversation is coming to an end.
Wait for a bit of a pause on the conversation.
Do this to be clear about who is leaving the VM.
Say who you are.
Do this to keep on topic.
Use cover stories and stick to them in the chat.
Remember to do this when sharing things about yourself.
Trade information over several occasions.
This is what you state once the person you are trying to reach is identified.
Say who you are.
This is the first thing you tell the other person to transition to goodbye.
Give the cover story why you have to go.
Do this to let them know who has a VM.
Say who you are calling for.
Do this to protect your identity.
Do not get too personal.
Do this to build rapport (get closer)
Find Common interests.
Once everyone knows who they are talking to you ask them this:
Ask How They are doing.
You do this to show positive association with the call.
Tell the person it was nice to talk to them.
Do this to let them know when they missed the call.
Say when you are calling.
Do this to not "blow up" thier messages.
Use the two-message rule.
Do this to build interests into connections.
Use common interests to form future contacts.
Once you let them answer you ask this next:
Ask if they are free to talk.
You do this to reinforce that you would repeat the encounter.
Tell the person you will talk to them again.
Do this so they understand why they have a VM.
Give the reason for the call.
Do this to avoid angry or anxious callers.
Avoid cold calling.
Do this so no one gets bored.
Assess interests
Finally you do this to get to the bulk of your conversation.
Give the cover Story for why you are calling.
Do this right before hanging up the phone.
Say Goodbye.
Do this to have them contact you back.
Leave your Phone number.
Teens should remember this about making new friends.
Teenagers should NOT use the internet to make new friends but use it to get closer to existing friends.
Once you assess the interests, you make this choice.
If NOT interested, change subjects
If interested, exchange contact information.