Before You Speak
Sometimes, it's important to be aware of your _________ BEFORE speaking.
Your emotions
If you and your partner can't figure it out, this is a really simple thing you can do, just _____ away!
Walk
Why does counting down form 10 help us when working on conflict resolution?
Gives us the chance to calm down, not respond with anger, gives us time to think etc.
What is conflict?
An argument, disagreement, or worse, a fight
If you are feeling angry or upset, sometimes it can be helpful to do this number trick in your head before speaking
Count down from 10
Sometimes, if we can't resolve the conflict with our partner, we might need to ask for help from an _____.
Adult or Mediator
Why is conflict resolution a good thing?
Solves the problem, gets you back to playing so you're not wasting time, helps us communicate our feelings, allows us to work on our friendships. (Any of these)
What is resolution?
It's solving the conflict, coming up with a solution to the problem.
It sounds really simple, but it works! When you're upset, take 2 or 3 deep _______ before speaking
Breaths!
It helps to think of the other person as my _______, not my enemy.
Partner
Why is talking about our feelings a good thing?
Because talking about them is a healthy way to work through our feelings and to share with important people in our lives how we're feeling. (Keeping them always inside can make us feel worse, or like we're never heard). (Anything in this realm is a great answer).
What is an 'I' message
Where we say "I feel hurt when ______" instead of "You hurt me...." (It makes people feel less defensive and a great way to share how YOU feel)
True or False: I should try to explain what I'm feeling to the other person in a calm way.
TRUE
The REAL enemy in the conflict is not my partner, but the _______ we're trying to solve.
Problem
Why is including everyone a good thing?
Games are more fun, makes everyone feel a part of the game, makes everyone feel valued. (Any of these)
What is a mediator?
A trusted adult or friend that can act like a referee and help you and your friend resolve their conflict.
When the other person in conflict with me is trying to explain what they're feeling, I should try to make good eye contact, nod my head when I understand what they're saying, and be a good __________er to what they're saying
Good Listener
Sometimes, when we can't figure it out by talking, agreeing to play a game of RO ____ BO and the winner gets their choice this time, and the loser gets their choice next time
RO SHAM BO (Rock Paper Scissors)
Why does making good eye contact and being a good listener help a lot when the other person is speaking?
It shows them that you are letting them speak and interested in what they are saying.
What is compromise?
It's when both people agree to give up a little of what they want so that they also get a little of what they want. (Win/Win)