Conflict resolution 1
You were rewarded at school but now your friend is ignoring you because they wanted that reward. They even spread a rumor to your friends that you cheated in order to win.
ask if they want to talk, ask them if they need space,
ask them to talk directly to you instead of spreading a rumor next time
A student bumps into you in the hall and knocks you back, you assume this was an accident but then you look up and realize they are laughing at you as they walk away. how should you handle this?
Talk to an adult/teacher.
Your friend keeps yelling at you any time you have the slightest disagreement
talk to them about how you feel, let them know that you might not always agree on things and thats okay. There are ways to talk about conflict without yelling at each other, share how being yelled at makes you feel.
You let your friend borrow your favorite hat and they lose it.
discuss your feelings. Will they replace it? Will they try to look for it and return in?
One of your friends wants to play video games, and you want to play basketball. Instead of compromising your friend starts to say mean things like "i dont know why you want to play basketball youre bad at it anyways". What can you do to resolve this conflict without escalating?
-tell your friend you don't like being spoken to like that
-say that it doesn't matter what you think I still want to play basketball
-tell your friend you need some space and play on your own, talk to them another time about how they made you feel and ask them not to do that again
-think about how often this person uses unkind words towards you
Your friend keeps hiding your pencils and thinks it's funny, but you are really frustrated and starting to fall behind on your work in class.
tell your friend how it makes you feel, ask them to stop doing this because its not funny.
A classmate took credit for cleaning up the bookshelf and was given a mustang buck for it, even though you did it. On ice cream day you don't have enough mustang bucks and they have extra. What do you do?
talk to the classmate, ask them to help you get ice cream, talk to someone you trust about the situation (i.e. adult/teacher/counselor)
A classmate asks you to give them the answers to the homework but you are uncomfortable with it because the teacher made it very clear that if anyone is caught cheating they will get a zero and a lunch detention.
tell them no, talk to an adult/someone you trust
you could also offer to help them without sharing your own answers, if you feel comfortable doing so
you could encourage the classmate to ask the teacher for help if they are confused
A friend stole your worksheet erased your name and wrote theirs instead. Now they have a good grade and you have a zero for the assignment.
confront you friend about it, talk to an adult (parent, teacher)
tell your friend that next time they can simply ask you for help
if this happens more than once, consider taking space from this friend
You told your friend who you have a crush on and they tell your crush.
tell your friend how you feel
"This made me feel...."
One of your good friends keeps throwing garbage into the recycling bin on purpose, even though they know that you care a lot about recycling and try really hard to do it right.
talk to them- "that's not okay", offer to help them to figure out what's recyclable and what is not
ask them why they keep doing this
You are at the movie theater with your friends and your friend takes the seat you wanted
sit somewhere else, tell them you wanted the seat, compromise, take a deep breath and use a calming strategy if you need to.
You have a best friend you have known for years. In 7th grade you both become friends with a new student and the three of you start hanging out all the time. Your best friend tells you that the new student/new friend is talking bad about you behind your back. When you confront the new friend they say this isn't true.
talk to your best friend and see why they said those things.
ask them if they are having other feelings like jealousy or if they are worried the new friendship will take away time from the old friendship.
you may reassure your best friend that having new friends won't change your existing friendship and let them know behavior like this cannot happen again
Your friend keeps taking your food off of your lunch tray without asking, you end up still hungry at the end of lunch.
ask them to stop, talk to an adult
Every time your friend comes over they go through your stuff without asking
talk to them- "please don't go through my stuff"
or "can you ask first? I'm happy to share my stuff with you but I'd just like to do it with you"
Your friend accused you of talking about them behind their back and they are telling all of your friends not to trust you.
take some space to calm down before talking to anyone
ask them to stop ask why they are telling lies about you, tell an adult
tell your other friends that its not true
You're being blamed for breaking the classroom pencil sharpener, but you did not do it. You saw your friend break it but you don't want to get them in trouble. You take the blame and the punishment. Later that day your friend laughs at you for being in trouble.
Talk to your friend and let them know how that hurt your feelings. Share that you were just trying to protect them and that you don't appreciate how they responded.
Let your friend know that next time, you wont quietly take the blame.
You and a friend are playing basketball and your friend won't let you have a turn with the ball. When they finally give you a turn, instead of passing you the ball they launch it across the gym so you have to go get it.
Tell them how that hurt your feelings and you might not want to play with them again if they can be a good sport/share.
Remind them that you want to play together and it can be really fun if you are both kind and respectful instead of hoarding the ball to themselves.
Suggest playing with two basketballs next time so that you can both have your own but still play together.
Every time your friend comes over they are really rough with your things (throwing, slamming, bending)
They even broke your favorite fidget toy and your sunglasses
talk to them- "can you be more gentle with my stuff?"
talk about how it feels, maybe ask them to help you fix your things, explain that you want to spend time with them but you don't want your belongings to be damaged
Your parent tells you its time to go to bed but you don't feel tired and want to finish watching the show on TV.
Talk to parent about it, make compromise,