Types of Conflict
True or False: There are 3 different types of conflict.
False; There are 4.
True or False: Conflict is when two or more people disagree about something.
True
True or False: Taking deep breaths before resolving a conflict will make you feel worse.
False; it will help calm your body & mind
True or False: Ignoring a problem will always make it go away.
False; it could make it worse.
You blamed a friend for something they did not do.
I'm sorry for blaming you. Next time I will trust you. Do you accept my apology?
When people have different ideas about something & nobody's feelings are hurt.
Disagreement
This part of the brain sends signals to release adrenaline & cortisol when faced with a conflict.
Guard Dog or Amygdala
Name the 5 problem sizes.
Tiny, little, medium, big, huge
Explain what an escalating action does for a conflict?
It makes it worse.
You told other kids about how your friend got in trouble in class.
I'm sorry for sharing your personal business. Next time I will keep it to myself. Do you accept my apology?
Hurting someone's body or feelings by accident.
Rude Moment
This way of handling conflict includes not expressing your feelings, looking down, and avoiding problems.
Passive
Name 3 coping tools you can use if the size of your reaction doesn't match the size of the problem.
Walk away, take a break, use calming toy, talk to a trusted adult, mindfulness, chair push-ups, etc.
Why should we choose to de-escalate a conflict rather than escalate it?
To solve problems, avoid making things worse, repair friendships, reduce stress, etc.
You keep interrupting your friend when they're talking & they look frustrated.
I'm sorry for interrupting you. Next time I will wait for my turn. Do you accept my apology?
Hurting someone's body or feelings on purpose.
Mean moment.
This way of handling conflict includes eye rolling, angry words, & being rude or bossy.
Aggressive
List 3 different solutions we can use when having a conflict with others.
Tell them to stop, wait & cool off, ignore, apologize, talk it out, etc.
Name 3 actions that would escalate a conflict.
Laugh at them, blame them, yell, call them names, throw something, push/hit, etc.
You rolled your eyes & acted jealous when your friend earned a reward.
I'm sorry for being rude. Next time I will encourage you. Do you accept my apology?
Hurting someone's body or feelings on purpose, it happens more than once, & they have more power.
Bullying
This way of handling conflict includes making eye contact, calm but firm voice, & respecting your rights and the rights of others.
Assertive
What are the 3 possible outcomes when resolving a conflict?
Win-win, win-lose, lose-lose
Name 4 actions that will de-escalate a conflict.
Make a deal, take turns, ask for help, talk it out, listen, take responsibility, apologize, etc.
You're upset & your friend keeps asking, "what's wrong?", then you yell at them to leave you alone.
I'm sorry for yelling at you. Next time I will tell you that I'm not ready to talk. Do you accept my apology?