Conflict resolution 1
One of your peers was looking at you during class.
Ignore it, move on
You and a classmate want to choose the same topic for a project but there's only one topic per student.
suggest a way to compromise, let them have the topic, ask the teacher for possible suggestions that might be of interest
Your friend keeps yelling at you to get their way
talk to them about how you feel, talk to an adult, find other friends
You let your friend borrow your favorite hat and they lose it.
tell them how you feel, move on, do not lend out your things if they are important to you.
One of your friends wants to play video games, and the other wants to play soccer
offer a compromise. What does that look like?
Win/Win
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
Your friend keeps hiding your pencils and thinks it's funny
tell your friend how it makes you feel
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
A classmate took credit for cleaning up the bookshelf and was praised for it, even though you did it
let it go, talk to the classmate, talk to someone you trust
A classmate asks you to give them the answers to the homework but you are uncomfortable with it
tell them no, offer to help them study, talk to a trusted adult
A friend copied your work and received a better grade.
confront your friend about cheating, express how it makes you feel when they copy your work, talk to an adult (teacher, parent)
You told your friend who you have a crush on and they tell your crush.
tell your friend how you feel when your private conversations are shared
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
One of your good friends keeps littering despite your efforts to not litter.
talk to them
You are at the movie theater with your friends and your friend takes the seat you wanted
sit somewhere else, tell them you wanted the seat, compromise
A friend told you your other friend was saying bad things about you, but you found out it was a lie.
talk to your friend about it
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
Your friend keeps taking your food out of the classroom fridge without asking
ask them to stop, talk to an adult
Every time your friend comes over they go through your stuff without asking
talk to them, explain how you feel when they go through your stuff
Your friend accused you of talking about them behind their back and they are telling all of your friends not to trust you.
ask them to stop, tell an adult
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
You're being blamed for breaking the classroom pencil sharpener but you did not do it.
Talk to the teacher privately
Cool off.
Talk it over starting from “I”, not “you”.
Listen and say back what you heard.
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Come up with a solution that’s fair to each of you.
Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize.
You and a friend are playing basketball and your friend won't let you have a turn with the ball
tell your friend how you feel
Every time your friend comes over they are really rough with your things (throwing, slamming, bending)
talk to them
Your parent tells you its time to go to bed but you don't feel tired and want to finish watching the show on TV.
Talk to parent about it, make compromise,