Getting Along
You just got new glasses and there is a student in your class who is teasing you about them. This hurts your feelings. What I message could you use to tell them your feelings are hurt?
I feel _______ when ________________. I need _________. I feel upset when you're making fun of my glasses. I need you to stop.
You are working in a group in your classroom and one of the people in your group is not doing anything. What should you do?
Give them a task to do, remind them that they need to join/take part/participate. Get help from the teacher if they are still not doing their part
Someone on the bus is calling you names every day. This really hurts your feelings. What should you do?
Ignore what you can. Ask them to stop. Sit with friends so you have people around you who are being nice. Tell the bus driver.
Your best friend is starting to spend time with another student in your class instead of you. What should you do?
See if there are ways you can all be friends. Let your friend know you're missing time with them. Understand that friendships change and it's okay to spend time with different people.
You are playing a game and you both want to go first. What could you do?
Use chance - coin toss, paper/scissors/stone.
There is a group from your class who are playing soccer and they tell you that you can't play because you aren't good enough. How would you face them and talk about this?
You could go find something else to do. You could talk to them and let them know you don't think this is fair. You could also make a joke and walk away.
You are playing a game with some friends and you win. One of the players is really angry that you won and is not being a good sport about it (doesn't like losing). What should you do?
Watch your words to be sure you're not bragging. Make a joke about better luck next time. Ignore them until they calm down. Remind them it's just a game.
A student in your class was playing in the bathroom when you were in there, and you know that is not allowed. The student threatens to hurt you if you tell the teacher. What should you do?
Tell the teacher anyway - if someone is threatening/frightening/bullying you, then this isn't safe. You could always write a note to let the teacher know if you're worried about the other student seeing you tell.
Your friend always wants to be the one who chooses what game you will play. This is starting to frustrate (upset/annoy) you. What should you do?
Ask if you can take turns deciding what to do. Use chance - coin toss, paper/scissors/stone. Find a way to agree and fix it for everyone to "win/win". Talk about it and let them know you're getting frustrated (upset/annoyed).
You and your friend have not been as close lately. How could you talk about this with your friend?
Use messages. Let them know what's bothering you without blaming them for not talking to you. Tell them how important it is you try to still be friends.
You just got a new haircut and it is very different from your look before. You're worried that someone might make fun of it. You walk into the classroom and a student laughs and points at you. What should you do?
Use humor, ignore them, ask them to stop laughing
You are working on a project with a partner and you both want to do the first part. What should you do?
Chance - paper/scissors/stone, flip a coin to decide Compromise (come to an understanding/meet each other halfway) - find a way to fix it with a win/win. Take turns.
You see one of your friends being made fun of by another student. What should you do?
Be a friend. Go to your friend and make sure they're okay. Use humor or change the subject. Make sure you don't join in making fun of him/her.
Your best friend looks mad at you and is ignoring you but she hasn't told you why she's angry and you don't know what is wrong with her. What should you do?
When she looks like she's calmed down, talk about it and ask what's wrong. If she keeps being silent, then just find someone else to hangout with. Let her know you want to know what's wrong to try to fix it and that you're willing to talk about it with her when she's ready.
One of your friends was teasing you and things went too far and now you are mad. What should you do?
Think about ways to calm down. When calm, let them know that they went too far.
You asked your friend about his/her dad and he/she got very upset because he/she doesn't see his/her father anymore. You didn't mean to hurt his/her feelings because you didn't know about this, so you didn't understand that this might be difficult for him/her. What should you do?
Apologize to him/her; Talk it out and let him/her know you didn't mean to hurt his/her feelings.
You are part of a reading circle group for your class. When it is time to talk about the book you are reading, another class member keeps interrupting (stops you from talking/cuts you off) you and you are getting mad. What should you do?
Talk it out. Let them know how you're feeling. "I'm feeling frustrated (upset/annoyed) when you keep interrupting (stops you from talking/cuts you off). I need you to let me have a chance to share my ideas too."
A "friend" of yours is always making fun of you in front of other classmates but is nice to you when you are both alone. You don't understand why and you are hurt by this friend's actions. What should you do?
Talk about it with them. Let them know it's not okay for them to be so mean to you in front of others and that this is crossing the line. Decide if it's worth trying to be friends with someone who is treating you like that. Think about what a real friend would do.
Your friend let you borrow one of his video games and now you can't find it. He is upset. What should you do?
Apologize for losing it. Talk it out. Share (one of yours). You need to let your parent know and get help looking for it or replacing it. If you borrowed it, you're responsible for it.
You heard someone whispering and you think you heard your name. What should you do?
Ignore it if you can. Ask them about it. If they were talking about you, then try, "I feel upset when you're talking about me behind my back. I need you to stop doing that and talk to me one-on-one."
A new student just joined your class from another country and you think he is from Mexico because he is Hispanic but he is really from El Salvador. This student is very upset and hurt (offended). What should you do?
Apologize to him, talk it out and let him know you were not trying to upset and hurt (offend) him. Be more patient and slower next time to make sure you don't make the same quick judgments
You are playing a game that has to be divided into teams of 2. You don't like the person you are teamed up with, but the teacher said you have to work together. What should you do?
Stop and think about how that person would feel if you complained about having to work with them. Understand that life isn't always fair and we have to work together sometimes so just take it.
Someone started a rumor (a story that may or may not be true) about you that was not true and very hurtful. You know who started it. What should you do?
After you've cooled off, talk to the person. Let them know how it made you feel and that this is not okay. Ask them how they can fix it - they need to take some responsibility and tell others it's not true. If it hurts you when you are around others that have heard it, or it might get you in trouble, then get help to stop it from being told.
Your only friend in the class is spending more time with someone that you don't like. You are getting frustrated (upset/annoyed) by this. What should you do?
If they are your friend, then it's not fair to ask them to choose between you and the person you don't like. You need to calm down and think about how to fix it with a win/win. Maybe if you give the other student a chance, you'll be able to make a new friend. You could talk to your friend about it but you may just need to give the other person a chance to get to know them too.