Friendship
A younger kid asks to play with you and your friends at the park. Your friends say to the kid, "You're too little to play with us! You can't play."
How do you respond?
A) Ignore the younger kid and keep playing
B) Yell at the younger kid to go away, they're too little
C) Tell your friends, "It's not right to exclude someone. Let's find a way to include that kid in our game."
C) Tell your friends, "It's not right to exclude someone. Let's find a way to include that kid in our game."
Your teacher assigns groups. One of the kids in your group makes an unhappy face and groans when they see who they're in a group with. How do you respond?
A) Say, "I feel sad when you respond that way to getting your group. I need all of us to be welcomed and included. Can you show respect and kindness as you learn who you're working with?"
B) Give that kid a mean look
C) Tell the teacher
A) Say, "I feel sad when you respond that way to getting your group. I need all of us to be welcomed and included. Can you show respect and kindness as you learn who you're working with?"
You notice a classmate sitting by themselves at recess with a sad look on their face. You don't know the person very well. What do you do?
A) Keep playing with your friends and don't worry about the student.
B) Say to the student, "Why are you just sitting there? Don't you have anyone to play with?"
C) Introduce yourself to the student and say, "Hey, do you want to play with me and my friends? We're playing freeze tag!"
C) Introduce yourself to the student and say, "Hey, do you want to play with me and my friends? We're playing freeze tag!"
You spend hours building a Lego creation, and your younger sibling comes and destroys it. What do you do?
A) Scream at them, storm off, and slam your bedroom door.
B) Find something that belongs to them that you can break.
C) Say, "I worked hard on that! I feel sad when you destroy my hard work, and I need you to be more careful. Can you please help me rebuild it?"
C) Say, "I worked hard on that! I feel sad when you destroy my hard work, and I need you to be more careful. Can you please help me rebuild it?"
You have always had the same best friend. You'd like to spend time with new friends, but you don't want your old friend to feel left out or sad. What do you do?
A) Say, "I love spending time with you, and I also like spending time with other friends. Can we all play together?"
B) Avoid your old friend, and hope they don't notice.
C) Tell your old friend that you don't think you can be friends anymore.
A) Say, "I love spending time with you, and I also like spending time with other friends. Can we all play together?"
You are working on a group project in your class. You feel like you are doing more than your fair share of the work. How do you respond?
A) Ask your teacher to change groups
B) Say to the kids in your group, "You guys never do any work and you make me do everything! It's not fair!"
C) Say to your group members, "I feel frustrated when I end up doing so much of the work, because I need help, and I want to include your ideas. Can we come up with a plan to divide the work more evenly?"
C) Say to your group members, "I feel frustrated when I end up doing so much of the work, because I need help, and I want to include your ideas. Can we come up with a plan to divide the work more evenly?"
You're in the cafeteria, and you hear a student say to another student, "Ew, what do you have for lunch? That looks so gross!" How do you respond?
A) Say, "Hey, it's not okay to make mean comments about someone else's food. Just because you're not used to something doesn't mean it's bad." Show interest in the new food by asking questions about it and maybe even asking to try it.
B) Get up to get a closer look at the food, and say, "That looks so weird!"
C) Go sit at a different table.
A) Say, "Hey, it's not okay to make mean comments about someone else's food. Just because you're not used to something doesn't mean it's bad." Show interest in the new food by asking questions about it and maybe even asking to try it.
Whenever you have friends over, your younger sibling always wants to play. You love your sibling, but sometimes you just want time on your own with your friends! What do you do?
A) Go into your room with your friends and lock the door.
B) Talk to your parent. Explain the situation, and ask they can help plan another activity for your sibling to do while you have your play date.
C) Yell at your sibling to leave you and your friends alone.
B) Talk to your parent. Explain the situation, and ask they can help plan another activity for your sibling to do while you have your play date.
You have always had the same best friend, but now your best friend is spending a lot of time with a new friend. You feel left out. How do you respond?
A) Stop speaking to either of them.
B) Say to your friend, "I feel left out when you don't play with me anymore. I'm glad you have a new friendship, and I also need to feel included. Could we all play together?"
C) Complain about your friend to all your other friends.
B) Say to your friend, "I feel left out when you don't play with me anymore. I'm glad you have a new friendship, and I also need to feel included. Could we all play together?"
You are working on a group writing project in your class. One of your partners makes changes to the Google Doc without checking with the other group members, including deleting other people's work. How do you respond?
A) Go in and delete all of your partner's work
B) Say to your partner: "I feel upset when I see that my work has been deleted or changed without talking about it first. I need to know that my work and ideas are valued. Could you please talk to the group before making changes to our work?
C) Go into the Google Doc and change it back to the way it was. Don't bring it up with your partner.
B) Say to your partner: "I feel upset when I see that my work has been deleted or changed without talking about it first. I need to know that my work and ideas are valued. Could you please talk to the group before making changes to our work?
You and your friends created a fun club at recess. You have inside jokes and secret code words. Another classmate asked to join your club, but one of your friends said they couldn't. How do you respond?
A) Agree with your friend. Your club is more fun when it's a small group.
B) You feel bad for your classmate, but you don't want to make your friend mad. You don't say anything.
C) Say to your friend, "It doesn't feel good to me to exclude people. I think anyone who wants to join our club should be able to."
C) Say to your friend, "It doesn't feel good to me to exclude people. I think anyone who wants to join our club should be able to."
You often wake up late in the morning, and then you feel rushed and stressed out. Your grown-ups yell at you to hurry up, and they're upset with you when you get out the door late. What do you do?
A) Work with your grown-ups to create a morning schedule and checklist. Decide on a good bedtime, and what time you need to be out of bed in the morning. Take responsibility for checking the time and keeping track of your schedule.
B) Ask your grown-ups to remind you about what you need to do every five minutes to help you stay on track.
C) Don't change anything. As long as you get to school basically on time, it's not a big deal.
A) Work with your grown-ups to create a morning schedule and checklist. Decide on a good bedtime, and what time you need to be out of bed in the morning. Take responsibility for checking the time and keeping track of your schedule.