Is it bullying?
Lisa said my shoes were ugly. Did she bully me?
No.
It only happened once. She was mean, but not a bully.
What are the three parts of an I-Message?
I feel...
when you...
Please...
When two people can't agree on...
... who should go first in line
... who should be captain
... whose turn it is
etc
Liana cut in line in front of Alicia and rolled her eyes at her. What I-message should Alicia say to Liana?
I feel frustrated when you cut in front of me. Please go to the back of the line.
How many times does someone have to do something mean on purpose in order for it to be bullying?
More than one time (over and over)
A friend tells you that you can't sit with them at lunch. What I-message can you say to them?
I feel hurt when you tell me I can't sit with you. Please be more kind.
When one person does something hurtful, which is the best solution to the conflict?
An apology
What I-message should Lisa say?
What I-message should Antonio say?
Lisa: "I feel hurt when you call me that. Please don't call me that name."
Antonio: "I feel angry when you curse at me. Please use appropriate words."
Every day, Michael calls Antonio dumb. Is Michael bullying?
Yes
What's wrong with this I-message? Change it into an appropriate I-message:
"I fee like I'm gonna smack you because you said I can't play with you. Please let me play."
"I'm gonna smack you" is not a feeling.
I feel ANGRY because you said I can't play with you. Please let me play.
When TWO people do something hurtful to each other, what is the best solution to the conflict?
An agreement - both people have to promise something.
Antonio called Lisa a mean name. Lisa got mad and yelled curse words at him. What's the best solution to this problem? Say what each person would say/do.
An agreement. Antonio must promise not to call Lisa mean names. Lisa must promise to use only appropriate words.
Patricia and Emily were started hitting each other one day during soccer. Is this bullying or is this a conflict?
Conflict
What's wrong with this I-message? Change it into an appropriate I-message:
"I feel angry when you call me that name. Please stop or else I'm gonna call you something so much worse and then we're gonna fight."
"I feel angry when you call me that name. Please stop."
If you do something hurtful by accident, do you still need to apologize? Why?
Yes. It shows the other person that you understand what they are feeling. It doesn't mean you are in trouble.
Kairo spread a rumor about Patricia. When Patricia found out, she decided to use an I-message. What did Patricia say?
I feel hurt when you spread rumors about me. Please stop.
Who do you ALWAYS need to tell if you know bullying is happening?
An adult
Which one of these is NOT an emotion:
A. Angry
B. Hurt
C. Like she did something rude
D. Left out
C. Like she did something rude
If you are having a conflict about sharing, what's the best solution?
A compromise
Liana and Maria both want to be team captains. They keep arguing, and they are about to fight. Quick! What's an easy solution to this conflict?