Words and Definitions
What does perspective mean?
Your point of view/a particular attitude toward or way of looking at something.
What animal represents an Aggressive or Forceful choice when in conflict? Owl, Teddy Bear, Turtle, Shark, or Fox
Shark
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A
L
K
Take a breath/break
Ask their perspective/then share your own
List the options
Keep it real
Why do we sit in a circle?
-Everyone can see each other
-There is no beginning or end
-No start or finish
-Everyone can hear each other.
You took my book and I never said you could.
Is this an observation or a judgment?
Observation.
What is the difference between an observation and a judgment?
Observation is objective/factual. Judgment is based on your opinion.
If you make this choice when faced with conflict, you will try to be likeable, loveable, and accommodating.
(Owl, Shark, Teddy Bear, Fox, Turtle)
Teddy Bear
After gaining each other's perspectives, both Nathan and Shanna think about what they are able to do to prevent the harm from happening again.
What step does this represent?
List the options
Why do we do a temperature check every day?
To consider how each other might be feeling throughout the day and interact with them accordingly.
What are the 3 typical responses when the instinctual/lizard brain takes over?
Fight Flight Freeze
What are signs of active/empathetic listening?
-Make eye contact
-Nod head
-Limit distractions
-Verbal queues of understanding
This animal gives a little to get a little, but their goal is to give as little as possible and gain as much as possible.
Which animal or Keyword represents this conflict choice?
Fox (Compromise)
Shanna hurts Nathan’s feelings. Nathan takes a week to approach Shanna about the conflict. What step does this represent?
Take a break/breath
What was the topic or key word related to the glasses holder activity?
Perspective
The principal is out to get me.
This is a judgment. Turn it in to an observation
The Principal stopped me in the hall 3 times today!
(Answers will vary)
Describe our Window of Tolerance
The range of feelings where you can handle things well and stay calm. When you’re in this window, you can think clearly, make good choices, and deal with stress.
Someone bumps in to you in the hallway and you quickly turn around as they hurry off. You don't recognize them which means you don't share any classes with them and you didn't get hurt. You decide to just go about your day.
What key word or animal represents this conflict choice?
Turtle (Avoid)
Nathan (the one who feels harmed) asks Shanna what was going on for her that day. After Shanna shares, Nathan asks if Shanna is open to hearing what was going on for him that day.
What step does this represent?
Ask their perspective, then share your own.
What character from Inside Out demonstrated Active/Empathetic Listening?
Sadness.
Select one of these elements of dignity and explain or give an example of what it would look like to have it upheld or violated.
-Benefit of the doubt
-Safety
-Acknowledgment
-Inclusion
-Accountability
(Answers will vary)
In week 1 we told you that conflict is caused by 2 things. What are those things?
Unmet Needs and Dignity Violations
How does Collaboration (Owl) differ from Compromise (Fox)?
Compromise is a quick fix where we give up a little to get a little. Collaboration takes time and addresses the needs of everyone involved.
After listing the options, Nathan and Shanna go through each option and decide whether or not they are personally willing to follow through with what has been suggested.
What step does this represent?
Keep it Real
What was the topic or keyword of the activity that had to do with your race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, religion, social class, ability status, nationality, first language...?
Identity
Select one of these violations of dignity and explain or give an example.
-Taking the bait
-Blaming and shaming other to deflect your own guilt
-Engaging in gossip
-Shirking responsibility
-Saving face
(Answers will vary)