True or False
True or False:
Consent only needs to be given once
False!
Consent needs to be given for every act, every time.
What is informed consent?
informed consent is when all parties involved in an activity agree to the activity while aware of what the activity involves including any risks.
You want to get consent to kiss someone.
What could you say?
Hey, would it be okay if I kissed you?
Someone shakes their head "No"
Is this a verbal, or nonverbal way of saying "No"?
Yes.
Remember, nonverbal communication uses body language and gestures to say no or express discomfort.
Someone says "No".
Are they giving their consent?
No, they are saying very clearly they don't want to.
True or False:
You should say yes to doing something because someone else wants you to.
FALSE!
You never need to say yes to something you don't want to do!
1 person agrees to a hug.
1 person does not agree to a hug.
Has consent been given?
NO!
consent must be mutual
You and your partner are making out, and things are progressing faster than you would like.
What could you say?
I would like to just cuddle tonight.
Someone says "YES, I WOULD LOVE A HUG"
Is this consent?
It is verbal.
They are using their words to say "YES", with enthusiasm and specificity
What does FRIES stand for?
Freely given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific
True or False:
It can be hard to say "no" to someone who has power (like a staff, or boss).
True!
Sometimes we may feel pressured to say yes to someone who has power (like a staff or supervisor), even if we want to.
2 people agree to go for lunch.
Is consent given?
Yes!
All people want to go for lunch!
Your make plans to see your friend on the weekend. They bring you a drink without asking you. You don't want to have a drink.
What would you do?
You can say...
"hey, I appreciate you bringing the drink, but I don't want a drink right now. Next time, would you mind asking me before?"
Someone gives a thumbs down when you ask them for a hug.
Do you have consent to hug them?
No.While it was non-verbal, this person expresses discomfort by using gestures to say "no".
Someone says "I want to do that, but not right now"
How might you respond?
-respect boundaries
-accept rejection
True or False:
Getting consent freely means that someone won't stop asking you to do something until you agree.
FALSE!
Freely given consent means that someone is not pressuring you into saying yes. You say YES because YOU want to!
True or False:
You NEVER have to say yes when you don't want to.
TRUE!
You never have to say yes to something you DON'T want to do!
Your partner suggests a new sexual act they would like to try, but you are not comfortable with this idea?
What could you do?
You should be honest with how you feel, say for example "I don't feel comfortable with that, but here is something I am comfortable with, what do you think?"
Someone says "I don't know if I am really want to do that"
Is it verbal, or nonverbal communication?
It is verbal!
They are using their words to say they are not sure if they want to do something.
Someone asks to hug you. You say no but they try to hug you anyways. Did you give consent?
No! You did not consent to the hug. The person is violating a boundary you set.
True or False:
Consent can be taken away at any time
TRUE!
Name 2 power dynamics which may impact the possibility of giving informed consent
Parents
Support Staff
Social Worker
Doctor
Supervisor or Boss
Your friend calls and asks you to get together. They say they want to go see a scary movie. You don't like scary movies.
They say "common, PLEASE! I really want to go!! PLEASSEEEE. COMMON, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE. JUST COME WITH ME!!
What is this an example of?
Coercion
Consent is not given if it is coerced
Someone puts their hand up to stop you from hugging them.
Is this verbal or nonverbal?
It is nonverbal.
They are using gestures to tell you to stop!
You ask someone to go out to a dinner.
They are avoiding eye contact with you and looking somewhere else.
Are they agreeing to go for dinner?
No. They are expressing negative body language with you and did not give you an answer.
That's okay! They may not want to go for dinner, so you can accept their response.